My client Mary (not her real name) always wants a guaranty that what she is about to do will work out before she starts. So each coaching call we spend about 10 minutes discussing the EXACT SAME THING:
She doesn’t get guarantees.
I don’t get guarantees.
You don’t get guarantees.
Nobody gets guarantees.
Eventually, Mary agrees to take action despite the lack of guaranteed success she would just love. You know what usually happens? Mary achieves success. Success with sales, marketing, blogs, social media – you name it and Mary has made it happen.
Mary asks me a lot if I think she is my most difficult client. I laugh because she’s so darn lovable I don’t know how she could be anyone’s most difficult anything.
But I know what she is getting at. Do I get tired of having the same 10 minute conversation with her every call? The answer is “NO” because here is what I adore about Mary and have learned from Mary along the way.
You can come to the table with the biggest pile of insecurity anyone has ever seen. You can doubt the fact that the Universe has your back even though you have plenty of proof that the Universe has always had your back.
You can feel needy and scared
If you ask for the support you need
You take action in the face of your fears and doubts you will succeed.
Mary may have doubts about herself and how the Universe works but Mary gets sh*t done. Mary has grown her $30,000 annual revenue to $120,000 in two years.
Mary takes her kids on vacation and takes time for herself. Mary gives to organizations she cares about and treats the people in her life with kindness and love.
Mary is pretty freakin awesome in my book. I tell her one day she is going to wake up and realize what a rock star she is. I can’t flip that switch for her as much as I would love to. But until then I will happily spend 10 minutes every call saying the exact same thing because Mary knows what she needs and I love that she can ask for it. And when she no longer needs it I know she’ll stop asking for it.
What do you need right now? Even if you feel silly or insecure will you ask for it?