Even when things are going well, we need time to rest. Especially after these past 2 years. This is the time we meant to hibernate. That might be why jumping into new things and embracing fresh starts might not be resonating with you.
Patty is talking through about how to manage January in the way that best fits you.
If “new year, new you” makes you cringe, or makes you feel like you aren’t keeping up, this episode is for you.
Honor that this may not be the time for you to be in planning mode. Pay attention to what feels right for you.
Hear how this showed up for Patty and how she’s getting clear about what is true for her. You can use this same process as well.
Remember that messages come from either love or fear. Trust your feelings and allow space for you to decide what’s right for you.
Allow yourself to know what you know. Trust that what your soul is sharing with you is exactly what you need right now.
It’s also okay to honor the losses in your life, no matter how insignificant (or significant) it feels. Take a beat and say goodbye and shed a tear or have a laugh as you leave what no longer serves you behind.
Here’s to January energy that works for you.
SUBSCRIBE TO THE SPACE FOR MAGIC PODCAST ON YOUR FAVORITE PODCAST PLATFORM
0:00:04.3 S1: Welcome to the space for magic podcast where people who are led by their hearts come to learn the secrets to receiving all the gifts the Universe has for us. I’m your host, Patty Lennon. I’m an ex-type a corporate banker turned intuitive coach using a blend of common sense brain science and just a dash of magic, I’m here to help you create abundance in every area of your life and business. Welcome.
0:00:36.6 S2: Hey there, welcome to this episode of this space for magic podcast. I’m your host, Patty Lennon, and we are well into our January month in this new year now, by the time you’re listening to this, and I am finding the January messages of New Year, new you, reboot, make it happen, all of this kind of get up and go energy messaging is irritating people more than it usually does, it’s been a while since I’ve paid attention to those messages and they’ve had held any meaning for me, I think I shared last week that I’ve long since stopped using January as the technical New Year. From that perspective, from a planning perspective or from an energy perspective, physiologically, I’m here in the Northern Hemisphere, we’re really not… This is not our New Year, we are still in hibernation mode in January, in a normal time, and we’re far from in normal times, meaning even when things are going well, you need a hibernation while in the kind of year or two year period, we’re coming out of… Especially 2021, filled with so much change. So much tubulations, hibernation is especially important. Hibernation is the time where we go within and we sort of reorganize and process, not actively, that’s when our unconscious self, our soul out in the quantum field can kinda work with everything that’s happened, trying to jump into fresh starts and new plans is just not something I do in January, oftentimes, I will at the beginning of December, sort of laid it out just so I can rest them in January, but this year that didn’t take place and I still don’t have a plan for this year.
0:02:40.5 S2: Oh yeah, I said it, I have no clue. What is happening this year. I was told very clearly at the end of November into December that I need to take a pause, I’ve talked about here, the sacred pause. And it did not work out the way I thought I was going to where I was just gonna go and the land was gonna lay fallow, as I shared last week, lots of disruptions in my life in the month of December, and so I’m still in need of that time period, and I’m letting it happen and honoring the fact that I don’t have the energy, I don’t have the enthusiasm, and I certainly don’t have the inspired action to make a plan for this year. Now, getting to a place where you can really trust that that’s your truth, if that’s sort of the feeling you’re having, it’s a journey, you can’t just jump into that necessarily if you haven’t practiced a trust that may be difficult for you. Trust meaning in the divine, in the bigger plan, in your soul’s wisdom, and if you need to put a plan together for the year just to sort of have some peace, that’s okay, but if you can hold it lightly and not take it so seriously, knowing the physiologically emotionally, psychologically, you’re really not in the energy of new…
0:04:05.7 S2: That’s really what springs about, and so you’ll more likely be there middle to end of February, maybe even March, and I personally have been told that I won’t really have any of that access to that wisdom or that awareness… Really, until the beginning of March. Now, that doesn’t usually mean that you do nothing like… Absolutely nothing. Sitting up in a room and stare at the four walls. It usually means if something else is asking for your attention for your focus, and I’m gonna offer to you that that will be really helpful if you can figure out what that is now, usually it’ll draw from a different… Well, so it might be that you feel called to journal, maybe you feel called to write. Maybe if you’ve been doing a lot of inner work, maybe it means going out and hiking or doing something more outdoorsy or something that develops and utilizes a different part of your brain and your body, because just like farmers, when they’re tending to different fields, they’re going to… One field lay fallow over the course of four seasons to really give it a chance to kind of regroup, but doesn’t mean they’re not planting elsewhere, or they might plan something different in that area.
0:05:33.6 S2: And so that’s really what you’re looking for. If you’re feeling like, Oh, I can’t even think about making big bands right now, that’s your mind telling you to slow down. So my intention with this podcast is to offer you two things One, how to navigate January in a world where January sort of set up as this placeholder for intention setting and goal setting and making things happen when most likely your energy isn’t and feeling that, whether you’re in the northern hemisphere or the southern hemisphere, neither of us are in a place where that’s sort of like the thing. And then also, last week, I shared that I’ve been going through a thing a lot, and that’s part of what I was told by my guides was that I would be going through it eventually to teach what I learned… Now, I’m not far enough out of it to really teach it in a real big picture way, but I am getting some small clear lessons that I can pass on to you, so wanna share those as well, because they’ve tied directly to letting go of expectations that maybe aren’t in alignment with where your soul is and those expectations in January of that new year, new you type energy.
0:06:55.8 S2: So number one is Honor that this may not be your time to plan it, and if it’s not just trust at that time will come, but give yourself a break. That’s a big one. And sort of a part 2 to that is to… This is a great time for you to start to notice and develop a heightened reliance on your bullshit detector, and what I mean by that is, I was just talking to a colleague and she mentioned that someone we both know who had been marketing themselves in a certain way that was disingenuous to put it kindly claiming to have a lifestyle and a life in a business that wasn’t actually true, that her world sort of imploding and that kind of the truth is coming out essentially, but we’ve been seeing this happen so much over the last two years in so many areas. And what I have found where… And I think this becomes even more important when you’re spending time on social media, is you can get messages from maybe influencers that you follow, or even people you know personally, and they create these uncomfortable emotions and you… They trigger you, and depending on where you are in your self-development, self-improvement journey, you may take those triggers to mean that you have something to work on in yourself and you know, hey, if you’re feeling jealous or you’re feeling less than, or you’re feeling any of those things, maybe there are some opportunity there, but I am gonna steer you in a different way to look at that, which is when someone is putting something out in the world and their intention is Love, generally, you were going to feel some emotion in the love spectrum.
0:09:06.8 S2: It might simply be that someone’s putting out that this is possible for you, and you feel maybe just a glimmer of hope, that’s the best you can feel on the love spectrum, right. But if you feel like crappy about yourself watching that ad or seeing that post or whatever it is, most likely that person has infused that message with something in the fear spectrum, so everything is born out of either fear or love it, and they might have been intentionally manipulative, they might not have been. A lot of people, I don’t think they’re necessarily going out there and trying to manipulate, they’re doing the best they can with what they have, but unfortunately what they’re bringing to the table is either fear or something very heavy ego-based. And this person that I mentioned earlier, that my colleague and I had witnessed this sort of implosion, this public implosion sometime ago, she had started putting our posts mostly about all the money she was making in this life that she had, and I’m not above that triggering me from time to time, depending on where I am in my journey, and yet I’ve come to see that…
0:10:34.5 S2: Yeah, I can take maybe something that I’m seeing in her post and say, Oh okay, that’s showing me what I desire, but immediately, now what I can do is clue in on, there’s a disconnect here, there’s a disconnect, and the disconnect is not inside my being… The disconnect is between what’s being said and what is reality, and I can now feel very quickly that what’s being offered isn’t being offered in alignment with the truth, and right now… And that’s really helpful. Let me just say to build up that muscle is very helpful ’cause it will help you navigate a lot of the bullshit that’s out there, and at the time, the colleague that I’m talking to now when we had talked, she was like, Can you believe, blah, blah, blah, and I said, I just know I can. And it’s not ’cause I don’t wanna believe it. It’s ’cause I can feel it. That’s just not the truth. I don’t know what the truth is, but I know whatever is there is not… ’cause I can feel it, I can feel the disconnect, and so right now, there’s a lot of people with RA-RA messages out there that may either just someone in your life or an influencer or a speaker or author or someone that’s putting these messages out there of you make it happen and put your fears aside and blah, blah, blah, and if it makes you feel bad about yourself, understand there was some intention of fear in that post, and maybe it was that person feels like they have to show up this way in January, ’cause it’s what you do, or maybe they’re hoping to play on the fears of people falling behind or whatever it is, and if you could just stop in this moment, and as not this moment, maybe this moment, if anything I’m saying is making you feel that way then certainly.
0:12:38.3 S2: Really clue in on that, I’m truly an coming here with helpful intentions out of love, but I’ll be honest, I have a little bit of anger too right now with a lot of the messages I’m seeing out there, knowing how much they can trust with the truth and knowing that they’re gonna cause people pain unnecessarily, so I am bringing a little bit of anger here, and you may feel that, so as much as you can set an intention to let my anger go, if it’s affecting you… But most importantly, what I’d like for you to do is understand the discernment is a really crucial skill, especially as we head into this year of six… A sixth year, we were meant to find harmony and discernment is going to be one of our strongest tools in getting there, and so discerning what’s right for you, discerning what the truth is, the beautiful gift you can give yourself, and as you see messages, the feel heavy or hard, or feel like to do what that message is suggesting you do make a plan, set an intention, pick a word for the year, whatever it is, if it feels like you’re pushing a boulder up the hill…
0:13:52.2 S2: It’s just not meant for you. Right, and you don’t have to think about it beyond that, just know it’s not meant for you, so that’s a great tool for the whole year, but especially in this year, in this month of lots of bullshit messages, which takes me to you, number two. Number two is allow yourself to know what you know about what you want, about what you have the energy for, about what you’re capable of, and trust it, trust what it tells you, and this does mean spending some time alone with yourself so that you can even hear what that is, you know, just being quiet. You don’t even have to drop into a meditative state, just let your thoughts or to slow down and then really hear what your soul is sharing with you and trust that it’s your truth, and trust that if you’re not planning right now, there’s gonna be a time where you can plan. Or if you’re not ready to do X, Y, and Z, there will be a time for you to do it. I have a friend who has lost a parent, I know lots of people listening right now are navigating this time of having just lost a parent, and especially if you’re the one, the sibling or the only child that’s responsible for that parents navigating that parent, the legal side or the estate side of that parent’s death, there’s a lot to do, and she confided that it’s been a couple of months, and so she feels bad that she hasn’t done more to take care of things, but the reality is, I mean, she did the basics, she did what she had to do, and she’s not in a situation where the parents home or their things are causing an expense she can’t bear right now, she doesn’t need to sell that parents property in this moment, she isn’t need to clear their things out.
0:15:59.9 S2: And I said that to her, just trust that that time will come, but you know, you just need time, and you may not be dealing with the loss of a parent, but believe me, 2021 was filled with lots of different losses for many different people, and you just may need time, allow yourself to know that you know that and trust the truth of that, so that’s number two, and number three is grieve and honor the losses that you have been dealt. now for you, the loss may not be big, it may be really tiny and it may require simply a nod to the loss, the grieving process doesn’t always look like crying and desperation and feeling dark, it may just be simply acknowledging the loss, and I’ll tell you a really silly thing that happened, but it’s funny because it did require just to be for me to stop and acknowledge the loss, and then I was able to laugh about the loss, so just to understand it, that almost all good grieving involves crying and laughing. I know I’m beating a dead horse at this point, but December was a month, so on. And so one day after Christmas, after my husband was out of surgery and he was…
0:17:28.9 S2: We knew that he could kind of hang out by himself for a couple of hours, I took my daughter to the pottery factor, it’s a local place where you do the paint your pottery, and then they glaze it and you pick it up later on and she loves it… And I just thought it would be nice soothing, creative, let my mind go kind of thing, and so I get there and I am… When you’re in kind of this like you feel like all the problems are sort of piling up and your mind sort of like this brain fog, it can be very hard to even make the basic decisions, so I manage to pick a bowl to paint it, and this was just amazing for me to have this break-through clarity of, yes, I would like this particular bowl becautse it was… It’s the exact same size of another bowl that I used to maket my salad in and we only have one of them, so I’m like, This is great, I would love to have another bowl this size, and I would love for it to be pretty. And bla-bla-bla, right? Well, then it comes time to pick the paint, again, I’m a major brain fog at this point, so I’m studying the paints and I finally have a vision for this bowl, and the vision is, they have these paints that are special paints that have…
0:18:49.5 S2: So there are pain colors that allow other colors to bleed through, so it’s this brown pain, it’s called Denim, but it’s brown paint that has a dark blue bleed through it, and they show you a sample of it, and I have this very cool artistic bull in my mind the vision. And then taking a step further, I find that color blue, another color blue to paint the inside, and it’s gonna be this whole thing, and it’s gonna be this beautiful artistic bowl that I’m gonna eat my salad out of… And then I paint it painstakingly with the three coats that the girl that told us what to do said would be necessary to have the kind of look and feel, and it took some time and I sort of lose my own fun, this kind of stuff after about one and a half coats, so that last one and a half coats was just like, Yeah, yeah, I’m gonna do this, and I’m trying to be zen-like about it and let my mind go, and my daughter is loving it, and I’m there with my cousin too, and so we’re having a good time, just being together, and I’m kind of how to myself Look at me doing something out of a pity party for a little while, so anyway, we leave, you know the bowls are gonna be fired, and by the way, when I leave this bowl, it’s this dark brown grittiness on the outside, and there’s light blue grittiness on the inside, which is what these paints usually look like if you’ve never done it, so you don’t really know what the end product is gonna look like exactly.
0:20:30.9 S2: ’cause it’s gotta be glazed and fired and all that stuff, so my cousin goes and picks up the bowls, picks up all the items when they’re done like a week later or whatever, and I’m really excited. It’s like a present almost, ’cause you really don’t know the final product, what it’s gonna look like, and I unwrap it and the entire thing is blue, it’s just one color blue. And I asked my cousin, did you look… And she goes, No, no, I wanted you to be the first to say so. She’s standing there with me and she was like… And she’s just staring at, no, it’s a beautiful blue bowl, believe me… It doesn’t look bad, but she knew what I was going for and we both know what it looked like and that we use… That I use very different paints on the inside on the outside, and at first I’m thinking like, Is this even my bowl… But then as I look more closely, I see very vague, vague light tan swishes throughout the outside of the bowl, and on the inside of the bowl there is some sparkle to the paint, which is the inside pain did have a little bit of a sparkle.
0:21:38.1 S2: finish, so it’s clearly not the same paint, but this looks nothing like what I did on top of it, it’s just a blue bowl, aside from looking up very closely, if you were to just see it, it would look like a blue bowl that you bought in the store like… Not any artistic endeavor. Put towards it. It’s a blue bowl. It’s perfectly fine, blue bowl, and I did want a bold that side, so that’s great that we have another one, but it just felt like a teeny tiny metaphor for the entire month where I had had this vision for taking this sabbatical, and I had lined up all these things to make it be this thing that was gonna be this sabbatical and then it was a blue bowl, it wasn’t a horrible month, it was just not the month I had thought I would have, and I just started laughing like a crazy person and laughing. Right, so a few hours passes and then I just… I decided to take the bowl out and look at again, and I just gave myself just a moment to say, Okay, I didn’t get what I was expecting. And that feels bad.
0:23:05.4 S2: That feels sad. It doesn’t feel devastating. It just feels sad. But I do have this beautiful bowl now, and if I keep holding on to what should have been, I’m not going to get to enjoy what I do have, and that brought up some tears because it was bigger than the bowl, but on the other side of it, I just started laughing and just thinking about actually sharing the story of the bowl with you here on the podcast and telling my community about it, that wasn’t that funny, that I have this little story that sort of encompasses this really big learning lesson that I’ve been engaging in… So that’s number three in this month of supposedly new, it’s quite possible that this is really a time for you to look back and just allow yourself to honor what you didn’t get or what you lost, or what you need to leave behind in 2021 to move forward. With fresh eyes and really appreciate all the gifts that did come with the year, maybe that’s what January is meant to be for you. What I do hope is no matter what you use this month for, especially if you are in the energy, I do have a couple of friends who are rearing to go who are ready, a plan and they were so excited about whatever that is for you.
0:24:37.9 S2: Or if you’re like me, where you just still in a pause and still taking it one day at a time, whatever it is, let it be that. So one, just honor whether it’s your time to plan or not plan, number two, allow yourself to know what you know, and number three, allow yourself to grieve the losses that you’ve encountered, so that you can appreciate the gifts, so with that, I send you
0:25:08.4 S1: My love and I wish you a very. Very beautiful, week. Hey, thanks for listening. If you know someone who needs to hear this message, please share this episode with them, and if you’re feeling really generous, I’d love for you to leave us a review at your favorite podcast app, it helps us reach many more people and it fills my heart with so much joy when I hear what you have to say about what I’ve shared. I’m cheering for your success, have an amazing day, and don’t forget… Always create space from magic.
0:25:53.2 S2: This podcast is part of the soundadvice network. Sound advice, FM, women’s voices, amplified.