Last week was a particularly busy week. I’m working on some new content and that birthing process always makes me feel chaotic (because no matter what you are birthing that is the nature of birthing.)
On top of that my little girl was in her very first theater production, which meant the balancing act between both kids sports and after school activities was a bit more intense then usual. (Picture me sorting theater ticket orders in the back of my mini van, waiting for one kid to finish Lacrosse so I could get the other one to play practice and hand out tickets to parents and you’ll have a pretty clear sense of the entire week.)
All week long I had a low level anxiety that no matter what I was doing, I wasn’t focused on the right thing. Then my moment of zen came on opening night of my little girl’s performance.
I was helping out backstage when she ran up to me to tell me breathlessly that Jenny’s makeup had smudged and it needed to be fixed IMMEDIATELY (this is critical stuff in the world of a 9 year old thespian.)
Then she said the thing that made my heart melt and reminded me about the easiest way to find my focus.
I’m so glad you are here right now, mom.
What I realized as I heard her say those words is that I will never get do-over on that moment. She will never have a first opening night again. I could either be there behind the scenes or not. I was there. I focused on the right thing.
I don’t always focus on the right thing. I’ve gotten better but its taken me a while. If you are struggling to figure out what to focus on next here is what I suggest.
Figure out what is most important to you.
Focus on the things that don’t get a do-over first.
Make a plan to get everything else done.
Follow the plan and just do the very next thing in front of you.
Hand all the other stuff over to God (or whatever your version of God is)
My experience is that if what we are worried about has room for a do-over it’s not worth worrying about.
Just make a plan and do the best you can. Focus on the parts that don’t have do-overs and when the dust settles you’ll have focused on the right thing.
In love and light,