When my mom crossed over 6+ years ago, a friend told me I was lucky because of my intuitive gifts. “At least you can still talk to her.”
It didn’t feel like that. In fact, it felt just the opposite. Because I knew what was on the other side of the veil – the peace and love – having someone I love so much cross over made me resentful. “Why does she get to go and I’m stuck here without her” was pretty close to my thought process.
And talking to her didn’t help, or at least that is what I thought.
I’d sit there sobbing and feel my mom near me. She’d say soothing things like “I love you” and “I’m here” and I didn’t hurt any less.
But over the last 6+ years I have sat with countless people as they’ve released someone they love into the next life and I realize how immature I was to take my gifts for granted. Knowing your loved one is with God, with the Divine, and knowing they are surrounded by many many beings that love them does help.
I know this because now I’ve watched up close what grief looks like when you can’t hear your loved one or don’t have the faith on what is on the other side.
Every person’s journey through grief and loss is different. And each loss is different. The experience I am having with my dad is completely different than my mom. Partly because we knew my mom was crossing and had no idea my dad was leaving us. Partly because one was my mom and one was my dad.
What I can say with confidence now is that I am extremely grateful for my gifts. I see the treasure in each connection point… in my faith.
A client and friend said “Imagine the messages we’ll get now that your mom AND dad are on the other side!” Over the years my mom has sent messages through me that have been meant to help not just me, but you as well.
My dad has already started giving me insights into life on this planet. One stands out as particularly important (since he keeps talking about it:)
Important Message from my Dad:
“The way you treat others is so important over here. So much else falls away but that stays with you! The joy and service you give matters and you feel it here.”
This has continued to wow him. He was good and kind but he didn’t do it to win favors. He did it because it was the right thing to do. He did it quietly and without fanfare and now he gets to reap the rewards of his efforts.
The days after my dad passed I heard story upon story of simple acts of kindness and generosity that had stayed with people. Almost everyone I grew up with said some version of:
“Whenever I was at your house your dad would ask me how I was. Then he would listen. Really listen. I felt like I mattered to him.”
Can you imagine what the other side is like for him right now?! Reliving all that making-people-feel-like-they-mattered. My dad never sought greatness, simply goodness.
I don’t know what you are thinking or feeling about your life right now. What I want you to know (based on what I’m hearing from my dad) is that if today you let someone else know they matter, you have had a really, REALLY successful day.
In love and light,