By Joni Lowe
I LOVE being a Mom. I’m so very truly grateful I was able to be a stay at home Mom during the toddler years. I was SUPER MOMMY going on play dates, going to story time at the library, going to the playgrounds to swing, etc.. Everything was going really well, but I felt like something was missing. I was super consumed with the children.
It ALL changed the day my favorite gal pal, Oprah, shared pole dancing with me in 2004. As I watched, I was in shock that pole dancing was on Oprah. I mean, really?!!?! But later that night, as I was knitting, I thought to myself, this could’ve impacted my relationship with my body when I was younger. There was such a spirit of loving your body and celebrating it. I decided immediately – I have to learn to pole dance and I have to share it with others. I had never touched a pole in my life, but I was determined to learn and teach! Crazy, isn’t it? I still think it’s crazy!
It was a wonderful moment, to discover a new passion and to be so determined to touch the lives of other women, but I was SCARED!
My biggest challenge was whether to begin or not. Do you know how many reasons why I shouldn’t pursue my desire to pole dance and teach? Here’s a bit of the trash that was running through my head:
- I’m a Mom – I can’t be a pole dancer
- I can’t leave my children for three weeks to train to be a pole dance instructor.
- What will people think?
- I’m almost 40 years old.
- If someone asks me what I do, how do I tell them I’m a pole dancer?
- People are going to think I am/was a stripper.
- What will my children’s friends’ moms think of me? Will they let their children in my home?
- Will I be strong enough to pole dance?
- Will I be good enough to teach?
It was really rough to get through all this negative nonsense in my head – I mean really rough. It was so loud and true. I got through it by truly believing in the positive experience I can offer women, following my desire to learn pole dancing, and not caring about what others thought of me. I knew I was going to impact women’s lives in a very positive unique way.
I’m truly grateful I did not let my fear (including the trash running through my head) stop me from what I was called to do.
Since that powerful moment to choose to pursue this new passion, life has never been the same. I touched thousands of women’s lives in a very juicy, fun, sexy, powerful way. They walk with their head up high, proud to be a woman, with a whole lot of body confidence and love.
I am grateful.
Joni is an Inspiring Speaker, Sensual Dance Expert, and Pleasure Revolutionary. She is teaching women to break through their thoughts that hold them back, to love their beautiful womanly bodies, and to create fun in life. After she sold her dance fitness business in 2011, she dove deeper into her research of what turns her on to live life full out. Now, she’s on a mission to teach women to build a strong foundation to create the life of their dreams.
Joni is the creator of Molten Motion, a new feminine, sensual dance movement in celebration of being a woman, with a juicy dose of body loving coaching. She has been featured on The Today Show, on I95 radio station, and in the Huffington Post. Learn more at www.JoniLowe.com. Get a free gift when you sign up to receive her newsletter.