Patty shares from her experience at a recent in-person conference. This is the first one she’s spoken at or attended since before the pandemic began. She shares why this felt different for her and why she was reminded about the power of connection.
The Magic Lounge is the community that Patty leads. She holds space there for her members to make connections, get support and tap into the principles of receiving. Many of us still feel anxiety around in-person events and she’s seeing growth and loyalty in the online space.
After speaking, Patty realized she’s ready to go on the road and needs your help. She wants to know where you are. Go to pattylennon.com/visitme and share your address. You’ll also be entered to win a surprise gift in the mail. Patty may come to your community for her book tour!
The Divine (Universe, Source) wants to connect with us in a real way. That means showing up in our most vulnerable, open selves. Isn’t that what we want in all our connections? The ability to show up and know we’ll be accepted and honored and cared for. That’s the essence of community.
Think about how you feel about community. Are you missing it? Are you looking for spaces where you feel it’s possible to show up as your real self, without judgment? What does community do for you? What are you looking for when you make connections?
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0:00:04.3 S1: Welcome to the space for magic podcast, where people who are led by their hearts come to learn the secrets to receiving all the gifts the Universe has for us. I’m your host, Patty Lennon. I’m an ex-type a corporate banker, turned intuitive coach, using a blend of common sense brain science and just a dash of magic, I’m here to help you create abundance in every area of your life and business. Welcome.
0:00:36.6 S2: Hey there. Welcome to this episode of the space for magic podcast. I’m your host, Patty Lennon. We’re gonna talk about connection, and in that spirit, this episode is brought to you by the magic lounge, my incredible community membership, where if you are looking for connection, I would love for you to join us. I know you would have so much fun there because I see how much fun everyone’s having… You can go to pattylennon.com/magiclounge to sign up. It’s very cost-effective, $37 a month, and you get so much with that… Alright, so I had the pleasure of speaking at How Design Live last week, and it was such a phenomenal experience for so many reasons, it was my first… I’m gonna say big stage or real stage that I’ve spoken on since the pandemic started. So I’m so excited to be out there on the road. I’ve got a few other speaking engagements coming up in the coming year, and I wasn’t sure how it was gonna be because I’ve gotten to the place where… I’ll be honest, I avoid a lot of in-person gatherings, and I think it’s just… It’s a shift that happened to me during the pandemic, and I didn’t even realize I was doing it, now I will say I’m an extrovert, so this is not a good strategy for my energy, so I came back from the conference and I just felt on fire and although I felt really committed to the work I do here, it’s space for Magic, I wouldn’t have said that I have felt on fire in quite some time, and I realized part of it is that the juice I get is being in person with people who share values and ideals and ambitions.
0:02:36.7 S2: And when I say ambitions, I’m not talking about… I wanna climb to the top of some ladder, I’m talking about people who are really in an active pursuit of growing in their life, that life is not just happening, that they’re making things happen. And I was talking to a colleague at the conference and I was saying, I just… I don’t get this at home, not meeting my house, but just being my local community, and then it hit me, how likely is that… How likely is it that in the community that I live in, people are not ambitious in the way I just described, I mean that’s just not… That’s just not realistic, right? And so why am I not experiencing it? And what’s different at a conference, and what I realized is different at the conference and those type of experiences, is that there is a context to your connection with other people, everyone knows they’re there to learn, everyone showing up in their best selves, reaching for something because that space is being held for them, and so there’s this added value of being inside spaces where the energy is held for you by someone else, they think it’s one of the reasons why the magic lounge is so successful.
0:04:00.3 S2: We have had almost, I think, 10 cent or 20% attrition for a membership is usually typical, and if we’ve had 1% or 2%, I would say it’s a lot. I don’t really think any of our members have left now, we did start it last year, right, so this was in the middle of a time where I think a lot of people aren’t able to be in person or maybe like me had just kind of shied away from in-person experiences, and we’re craving that community online, so we’re finding that the connections that happen in The Magic lounge are very powerful for people, but in the magic Lounge, and I love being part of that community, I’m the one holding space, which is just a little bit of a different experience, and I love holding that space for our members, but for me, for the space to be held for me in that context of a conference, it really made such a difference, and I had new ideas come to life and I made connections with people and all of that just starts to move the life force inside of me. Now, if you’re an introvert, I don’t know if it works like that for you, you know that online communities may be an easier experience for you, but for those of us who are extroverts, especially if you are like me and you’ve thought that, Oh, I think I’m more like an amber, where I can do both sides, which I can…
0:05:30.5 S2: You may have started to forget how important powerful in-person connections are for you, and I think it’s because so much of the regular in-person connections in the world today have become fraught with challenges, I just… The other day, my daughter screen broke on her phone and I went to go, bring it into you break fix that’s our local franchise that does screen fixes, text fixes and the owner, Dave. So a big shout out to Dave and Brookfield you break i fix I love, love, love this business because he is such a good person, he’s kind, he’s been… Ever since the first time my son broke something of his, I’ve just always really respected the way that they’ve handled my son because I’ve tried to let my kids even from a young age, handle their own interactions out in the world, like dealing with… Fixing something, yeah, I’ve been by their side, but really urging them to communicate the problem, to advocate for themselves for solutions, just they’re going out into the world with those skills, and he was pretty young when he broke his first electronic… I wanna say it was probably like fifth grade, so 10 maybe, and Dave was just so good to him and so kind to him, so I’m super loyal to that business into…
0:07:01.5 S2: We were in there, and Dave told me that he’s had to have people, three separate people arrested over the last year, and in his entire time of running this business, which I believe he saw was eight or 10 years, that had never happened. And so he’s arresting people, having people arrested because they’ve come in both their electronics in, had them fixed, and then before they paid the bill, took them and ran away with them. I mean, isn’t that crazy? There’s just an energy in the world right now that is… And that’s what I’m talking about, is that in-person reactions are just fraught with challenges is just when I was pulling into that same parking lot where that business is, that I’ve gone a thousand times, maybe more, to where our local supermarket is… There was a tractor trailer delivering product to one of the businesses, it had had to park at a weird angle. And I would imagine it had to do that for some reason. I don’t know. Well, I’ll just have to work together to navigate around this chapter trailer, and I was inching out because I could not see around it, you know, it was at a cross in the parking lot, and so I’m inching out to see if it’s safe to go.
0:08:19.0 S2: And this person was going straight to… They see that there’s a tractor trailer that’s going to block, you know the vision of someone that’s coming from the other direction, and they were going far faster than they need to go in a parking lot to begin with, but they laid on the horn and they gave me, the finger, and they screamed at me. And I am seeing that reactions like this, this intensity is… I’m seeing it just so much more often, I think that can cause us to shy away from just being out in the world. You can let me know if you think that this is true for… You can email me email@example.com. I’m curious if you’re having that experience… But we can’t throw the baby out with the bath water. Right, we need that in-person connection, we need those intimate connections online, we need that sense of community, it’s important for us as humans, as inter-relational beings. So when I got back from the conference, I re-committed to doing something that I had has been floating through my mind, it’s been something I’ve wanted to do for a while, and I had planned to do it, but I didn’t have that fire in the belly that makes you make it happen.
0:09:37.3 S2: But I got it now, and the thing that I wanna do is go on the road and bring the book tour on the road, so we were taking… Make space for magic on the road. We have a couple of ways that we do it, so we can do book signings, book readings and book signings to the traditional book event, and we have a make space for magic short workshop that we can do in spaces that can hold audiences that can workshop meaning you need to essentially be able to write on something for the workshop, so we’ve got both of those going on, I need to know, so I need something from you though to bring this close to where you are, which is… I need to know where you are. So we have set up a page to collect addresses from our audience from you, and I would love if you would help us out if you would go to pattylennon.com/visitme and give us your address. Now, if you give us your full address, you’ll also be entered to win a gift that we’re gonna put in the mail to… A snail mail gift.
0:10:44.2 S2: It’s gonna be a surprise. I’m not gonna tell you what it is, so that you get a surprise, right? That’s super fun. Just go to pattylennon.com/visitme, tell us where you are, and if we’re gonna come close to where you are, we’re gonna let you know, letting us know who’s in different locations, helps us understand, you know where we have enough people to bring an event. Because I’ll pretty much go anywhere, I’ll be honest. At this point, I got the juice. Mean, if there are people… I will come… Now, that’s for domestic… For the United States, domestic, for me, I should say. I think we’ll definitely be bringing it to Canada… I will definitely be in Ireland next year. To that, I know for sure if you’re in other countries, they’ll let us know where, and also if there’s some information you wanna give us about that, I’ll make sure the team puts that on the form, it’s not necessary, but for instance, if you’re in some distant part in Europe, but you’d be willing to travel to other locations, you’re regularly in other locations, you can let us know that in the notes as well, and then once we have some locations lined up, we’ll have a book tour page where you can see where we’re going, ’cause maybe there’s a location where you’ve got friends or family, or just a place you have always wanted to visit and you’ll wanna join us for the book tour anyway.
0:12:19.4 S2: We’ll also be doing an anchor event, a big live event on the Connecticut, shore next spring, so we’ll have that coming, that will be a big splash of a… Super excited about that. We’ve been working with the event planner to find a good location that’s relaxing and feels magical to… That is all coming. So back to connection. One of the things we started doing in the magic lounge, and this was completely… We have to give a credit to our community, they were the ones I told us they wanted it, they said We want a chance to really get to know the other members, so I think we’ve got about 160 members in the membership, and we host live calls and we’re doing things as a community, put that opportunity that you usually get a conferences to meet up with just a few people and get to know them that that hadn’t happened yet, and so we’ve just our community calls that are hosted in small pods, so no more than 8 people, so everyone can get to know each other. And these are a huge hit, and this is just driving home the point to me again, how much we are craving to get to know each other at deeper levels.
0:13:33.9 S2: One of the things I talk to, or lounges that’s who are magic lounge members call themselves, and I talk about it in intuitive immersion, I talk about in the receiving school, is that the Divine… The universe source our spirit guides our angels, they want intimacy from us, they want intimacy from us, when I say into mean our vulnerability or truth our realness, right? And that’s what we want from each other, and unfortunately, most of our larger interactions with the larger group of people we know have happened over the last couple of years, primarily on Zoom and social media, and we don’t always… When it’s a big crowd, we’re not necessarily going to be our true souls, there’s pieces of us that we hide away, and I had done a post a couple of weeks ago about the junior prom, so my son, my oldest just went to the junior prom… This is the first event that class has had, so a lot of what they would have normally participated in in high school hasn’t happened for them, and my younger daughter, she and missed out on trips, and that normally happened in middle school. So this particular group of kids, they’ve missed out on a lot.
0:15:04.5 S2: Now, I am not sitting there bringing my hands and shedding tears because they haven’t gotten a trip to DC or they didn’t get dances or the things they normally do, I’m happy that they’re healthy, and you know that we have such amazing teachers that have guided them through this journey, I’m very grateful for the experience that they’ve been able to have because of the resources we have access to, that being said, to see them all going to this junior prom just made me really happy and I wanted to share it. I’ve held off sharing things on social media that are celebrations because I do… I’m always thinking of the people that are struggling and not really wanting to shove some big celebration in people’s faces unnecessarily, I’m sharing it on tax to my family, it’s not that I’m not sharing it with people, but to that larger audience, I’ve just found myself editing myself but this one, it felt important to share because it felt like a milestone to me, an energetic milestone, that being said, I knew parents that we’re going to have their kids home for a variety of reasons, and none of them were easy and none of them were happy, their child was struggling with an eating disorder, or the hetero normative experience of it was really uncomfortable for their child who is still in an exploration of their own identity and really didn’t feel like they fit into a category that would make dressing for…
0:16:42.7 S2: Or showing up at this hetero normative dance, feel good to them. Right, and then the other reasons go on and on and on and just felt dismissive to know that these stories were out there of my specific friends and they knew I knew. And to just put this, hey, look at junior prom kind of thing. When the junior prom, the essence of the junior problem was what was causing their child pain in there for them, pain. And so I had found my way into a post that felt balanced, then I celebrated, and then also acknowledged, you know the pain that some of my friends were in and probably a lot of parents I didn’t even know were in. And I’ve gotten a ton of private messages from the post of parents that just said, Thank you, I feel seen… I can’t even put into words how excruciating that night was, just sharing, sharing, and it all comes down to they felt connected to me, even though I wasn’t in their pain, the fact that I could see it gave them a safe space to share a little more and to connect and to be vulnerable and to be open, and we haven’t had as many opportunities for that over the last couple of years, so…
0:18:08.2 S2: What does this mean for you? Well, you know, I’d just like you to think about, how do you feel about that? Do you feel that’s true? Not just the connection piece, but having the context of a space to connect that’s being held for you, that’s being protected for you, that’s being… That’s being infused with inspiration or infused with safety, or infused with something that makes it possible for you to show up as you… Going into the conference, there was an opportunity to be found and you could choose whether you’d be filmed or not, and I went back and forth, and I’ll give you the real reason why I went back, ’cause normally I’d be fine being filmed… I am not someone that worries, I get on Zoom when I’m out exercising or Facebook Live or wherever I fill videos anywhere, I don’t have a big amount of around how people see me because the reality is… People like it better when I show up unpolished. Right, and in this case, I was gonna be polished and I planned on shower and do my hair, do but make up at… But I’ll admit what the real reason was, and I can do this now because I actually admitted it to the videographer before I went on stage and why head waffle? And it’s because over the course of covid or the time that we’ve been in the pandemic, where I’ve mostly been seen on Zoom, I’ve gone into menopause and that has changed my body, and I still haven’t quite found my way back to an exercise…
0:19:57.4 S2: In an eating routine that really gives me the kind of body shape, I guess, that I would like to… And it was the most fascinating thing. He was like, Yeah, I totally get it. He’s a 20-something dude. I don’t know that he really does get it. But he heard me, and the thing was he was lovely about it, first of all, but saying it out loud, I realized, Oh my God, it’s just so much easier to be my whole truth than it is to be a half truth, it really is just so much easier, but somehow I’ve gotten away from that. It’s always been part of my brand, how open and vulnerable I’ve been… That’s been very intentional for me. It’s intentional because I truly believe it’s when you hear my struggles, when you hear my low points, that you feel less lonely, that you can experience your own challenges in a way that makes you feel like I’m not somehow in some better spot than you are or have it easier than you do, or I have it, I have some advantage that you don’t have, that has made it possible for me to create what I’ve created.
0:21:17.0 S2: I always want you to feel the struggle, so you feel less alone in your own struggle, that’s been critical to me, because I know one of my unique ways that I teach… In the unique ways that I grow my content is that I do things the hard way, you know the first time, sometimes the 10th time, and I keep doing it until I figure out how to do it in a way that causes least amount of pain and creates the best results, right? That is just my process and I had… We had Kelsey just last week, else, Abbott think we talked about it on that podcast, if not, we talked about it on one of her, which we had linked to those episodes where that’s part of my human design, is I go first and I just do the stumbling and then I show people the path, right, so if I’m gonna do that, but I’m not gonna show you my stumbles, then I’m not giving you the full value of what I can teach you. So it’s always been really important for me to do that, but you know, there’s always ego things that kinda get in the way of that, it’s one more in person that we can be more real, it’s when we’re in those small connection points like we have inside the magic lounge, that you get to feel less alone in the journey, and in fact, the terrible tragedy of the shooting in Texas happened on a day where we had one of those community calls set up, and the people that were on that community call, the group of eight that happened to be together that day, they said, being able to talk to each other to people who they know, whose vision and ideals and values are pointed in a particular direction, meaning we are always advocating for how can we be kinder, how can we allow in help from the universe, how do we make magic? How do we not fall victim to negativity and violence that’s out in the world and let it suck us down.
0:23:31.5 S2: We lift each other up, and for the people I participate in the call, they said it made a huge difference in how they were able to walk through that particular day. It matters, it matters that we find those connection points, and not just the connection, but the connection in the context… In context. And that’s the key. And so I want to encourage you, if you’re listening to me and you’re like, I am craving that connection, look for it, not just to find some people who are like you, but inside of a context that allows you to thrive, that allows you to reach for more whatever more is for you, more inspiration, more magic, more abundance, more love, whatever it is, do it and do an inside of context. One of the tickets I just purchased is for she podcast lives, so that’s happening in October. If you guys know of great events that are happening, I’d love to know what they are, firstname.lastname@example.org, maybe I can get there, or better yet, maybe I can present there, but minimally. Tell me where you are in the world, so hopefully I can bring the book to where the make space for magic book tour to you where I will create context for that connection.
0:24:52.4 S2: And hold that space for you. Just go to Pattylennon.com/visitme, Give us your name, your address, and if you give us your full… If you don’t wanna share your full address, that’s fine, you city and state, or country and region or province, enough for us to know basically where you are is fine, because that will help us decide where to bring the tour, but if you give us your full address then you’ll be entered to win, a gift to be mailed to you. Isn’t that fun? Something in the mail, in the snail mails, and I promise we’ll mail it anywhere in the world, you tell us where you are, people who have joined my program said that live outside the United States, said that… They’ve always appreciated that about me is that when we mail our gifts, you get to have them no matter where you are in the world, it might take… It might take a month for you to get the and depend where you are, but we will mail them. Alright, everyone, I hope you have a beautiful, beautiful week. I am sending you my love… Oh, if you’re joining us in the magic lounge, I should say on the day that this podcast drops, the very next day, we have, oh, such a wise person when it comes to connection to self, John Roedel is gonna be joining us for our guest appearance, so we have in The Magic Lounge, we have our guest teachers our guest hosts, they come in and they share their wisdom and hold private discussions with our community.
0:26:25.8 S2: So John Roedel is an amazing poet, he is a thought leader, and he is going to be teaching us about how to connect to that inner voice the way he did to first write his dear God, Dear John letter. So that’s exciting. If you’re not already a part of the magic lounge doing today, it’s 37 a month joined today, and you’ll be able to get in on that private conversation with John tomorrow, and then certainly if you’re joining after that, it would be… June 2nd is the day he’s gonna go live in the community, you’ll still have access to that conversation and all his juicy answers to everyone’s questions, have a beautiful, beautiful week
0:27:11.2 S1: And don’t forget. Make space for Magic. Hey, thanks for listening. If you know someone who needs to hear this message, please share this episode with them, and if you’re feeling really generous, I’d love for you to leave us a review at your favorite podcast app, it helps us reach many more people, and it fills my heart with so much joy when I hear what you have to say about what I’ve shared. I’m cheering for your success, have an amazing day, and don’t forget. Always create space for Magic.
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