This is the first in a series of articles regarding using your intuition to create the balance and prosperity both you and your family desire.
Last week a client called me for support with a decision. She is the mother of four children ranging in age from 1 to 16 years. She launched her own business this year. (Yes, I’m in awe of her as well.)
When she called her family was scheduled to leave the following day to meet extended family for a ski weekend. She didn’t want to go.
“Is it okay that I don’t want to go? I just want to stay home with my baby.”
Her reasons for not wanting to go were completely logical. The three older children were independent skiers. Her husband would be with them all day while she would be stuck trying to keep a 1 year old safe, shut indoors, in a non-baby-proof villa.
She felt selfish keeping one child at home and leaving her husband with the responsibility of three. As we talked through it the most important piece of information came out:
“I just feel in my gut that we (the baby and I) will be much better off if we stay at home.”
Her intuition had sent up a clear signal and that was all I needed to hear. My advice?
“What works for you works for the family. Trust your intuition!”
She was relieved. Sometimes we just need another to give us permission to honor our inner knowledge. (Ideally we follow it always without permission but, hey, we are all human!)
My client told her husband and he was completely supportive. I suspect he was thrilled. Sometimes being able to play without rules (i.e. sans mom) can be good for dads.
My client received a call less than 24 hours after the rest of her family arrived at the ski house. The sewer system had backed up and filled the bottom floor in their rental house. The entire extended family was forced to move out in the middle of the night. All agreed had the baby been there it would have been a much bigger nightmare.
P.S. My client experienced a delicious weekend at home with her baby. Enjoying his baby-ness and also getting some much needed alone time because of the baby’s naps and early bedtime.
She was able to slow down to the pace that just isn’t possible when you have children of all ages. We were both amazed at the business productivity that flowed from her the following week.
As moms we have become practiced at harnessing our intuition to keep our children safe but that same powerful sense is abandoned when it urges us to care for ourselves. Why is that?
I am determined to understand why this dichotomy exists for so many moms. In the meantime, I have found that the mantra I gave my client helps us remember that caring for ourselves is caring for our families.
Say it with me!
What works for me, works for my family!