Happiness feels elusive some days. Patty mentioned in last week’s episode that storms and power outages and no internet on top of COVID had her feeling drained.
This week she shares what she’s been doing to fill her cup. This isn’t about putting on a happy face and pretending that everything is okay. It’s about doing things that she knows will help her energy and her emotions around the things happening in life.
Patty shares the strategies that she’s using:
- Breathing exercise
- Access consciousness practice
- Dark chocolate (or your preferred treat)
- Spend time in nature
- Ask for help
It’s important to allow others to offer support and assistance.
If you’re a business owner and want to find out how to hire help on a budget, Patty is doing training with Jen Lehner. You don’t have to go it alone.
Welcome to the wealth and purpose podcast, where people who are led by their hearts come to learn the secrets to creating wealth in a way that feels really good and live their purposefully in the process. I’m your host, Patty Lennon. I’m an ex type. A corporate banker turned intuitive business coach. I’m also a wife, a mom to two. Pre-teens a professor girl scout leader. And well, Hey, you get it. Like you I wear a lot of hats, whether you’re looking for inspiration to get started or strategies to get growing, I am here to help you create abundance in every area of your life and business. Welcome here, Patty here. Welcome to this episode of the wealth and purpose podcast. So the way that it works when I record my podcast is that I enter a title of the podcast before record it. And then it gets sent over to my producer.
A lot of times they will keep the title the way it is, but sometimes they change it to make it more representative of the content. Because a lot of times what happens is I go into the podcast expecting to share something with you and the podcast takes a turn and something more important, or maybe something that would be more interesting to you rises to the top in the podcast. And the producer sees that and, you know, names the podcast accordingly. And I’m always happy for that support. The reason I’m sharing that with you is that I named this habits of happiness. And even as I typed it, the sacker and feel of it sort of permeated my whole being. So it will be interesting to see if that’s the name of the podcast you’re listening to. Then that’s the name of the episode or it’s something else.
And the reason it feels so saccharin to me right now is that happiness feels just out of reach. I have a few things that I am experiencing, gratitude, satisfaction, somewhat a sense of productivity, relationship love. There’s lots of good things happening in my life, but happiness, which to me is that pure sparkly experience you have, or I have when there’s that sort of gloom or, or negativity really just doesn’t seem to be present in the moment. And the happiness can be a spark. It can be a moment I can have, it can last, you know, there’s loads of people that are happy all the time or so they, and you know what, in general, I’m actually pretty happy person, but, you know, I shared this last week on the hundredth episode that I realized with the power outage, first of all, the power outage that we experiences and the issues as a result of the hurricane that passed through really seemed to be a straw that broke the camel’s back when it comes to my energy, my enthusiasm and my happiness, it just, it just sort of drained put me over the edge of really moving my well, my own personal well too, um, much lower than, than is ideal.
I talked about last week about really focusing on what does it take to get you to a hundred percent energy? Because I truly believe it’s, it’s really, really challenging if not impossible to experience happiness, if your own personal energy is low. So, you know, my focus has been on getting my, my energy wealth filled back up. And the thing that I noticed is there’s certain habits. There’s certain consistent behaviors that cultivate and sort of perpetuate happiness, but when I’m not feeling happy, and again, I have to say, this is not a very normal state for me to go days without experiencing that happiness spark. At least even in moments, it gets harder and harder and harder to do the things that I know perpetuate happiness. And when I do them, I actually do them almost with a bit of resentment or feeling like their job.
There are jobs. So, you know, one of the things I do daily is tap use EFT. But lately I felt like it’s almost a job. And I sent a text to a friend who was waiting for me to call her back and said, well, I’ll call you back. As soon as I’m done with my tapping. And by the way, interpret this the way the Dunkin donuts man’s used to sound on that commercial time to make the donuts time, to make the donuts time to do the dapping that’s, that’s what it feels like right now. But I do it. I do it because I know that it is a clearer of negative energy. I know cause it, it helps me separate what’s mind from what’s others. Meaning as an empath, I absorbed the energy of others. And I think that’s partially why this hurricane in this power outage and these internet outage was, was maybe that feeling of the straw that broke the camel’s back because it made my life a little more difficult, but it made my community’s life, um, really difficult as a whole and a community that was already leaning towards negativity, already leaning towards infighting and just so much back and forth and negativity.
It just seems to have grown exponentially. And, and I just feel those, those clouds sort of moving towards me and it’s not that they have to take over. So I want to promise you if you, you feel those clouds as well, you know, if you’re a sensitive or an empath, they don’t get to be the boss of you, but sometimes it’s harder than others. And sometimes it requires more work and more discipline to clear the energy. So I just want to share with you a couple of habits that to me, aren’t dating instantly light the switch of happiness, but I know, I know, I know they move me in that direction. And so the first is really taking three breaks, three focus breaks through the day, the first thing in the morning, the middle of the day. And then at night either before I start to, I read before I go to sleep. So either before I start reading or after just three rounds of breath, really to reconnect with myself and you don’t have to make this any, you know, you don’t have to build a lot of ceremony around it. It’s just stop and we’re going to do it together right now. Stop and breathe. So breathe in and breathe out, breathe in and breathe out, breathe in and breathe out.
See already feeling a little bit better. It also helps you connect to you and your energy center. The second thing is a statement that one of my friends taught me that comes from a modality called access consciousness. And I w I will tell you, I am not well versed in access consciousness, but when she taught this to me years ago, it helps so much, especially when the intensity of the world is at the fervor that it is right now. And that is to ask when you feel something in your body that doesn’t feel good, it doesn’t feel joyful. It doesn’t feel happy to ask who does this belong to? And then from there, and the second part, I believe came from a different haler. I don’t think this is access consciousness. Once you feel it, if you say, who does this belong to? And you feel it for even a moment, sort of lift off of you or sort of expand out of your body.
That means you’re, you’re really feeling the feelings of other people. And so then say return to sender with consciousness. And that allows you to return that all to that person. But you’re also sending it with the gift of them being able to be conscious with it so that they can heal it for themselves. So that’s the second thing, the third thing, and the nutritious out there are not, I don’t think they’re going to support me in this, but it really does help me is just a little piece of dark chocolate. You don’t want to eat like the whole bag. And my favorite is dove simply because each dove chocolate comes with a little message inside of it. And I like getting that extra little message, but for you, it may not be chocolate. Chocolate may be an addiction for you that it’s just not worth it for you to go down that rabbit hole, but some sweetness that you can put into your, into yourself, whether it’s the sweetness of a smell, smelling a flower, smelling an essential oil, tasting something sweet, maybe fresh fruit, whatever it is for me, because I really like chocolate.
It’s some dark chocolate, but I really do make sure I take the piece of chocolate out and then walk away from the bag and then the final habit. And there, there are so many things, so many things you can do to increase the happiness. But again, these are just the, these are the good standards is to get outside and get outside and, you know, connect to the ground, connect to the earth, breathe in fresh air. Certainly if you’re by a body of water and you can get into water, that’s like next level stuff, but even just putting your bare feet on the ground or sitting on the ground, especially in your trees and things with deep roots can help. And, um, finally, the last habit is, or did I say the last one was the last one? Well, anyway, this is one more is, you know, hand it off.
Ask for help calling the divine, calling your guides and angels and say, please lift this from me. And as close as you can name what, this is the thing that’s keeping you from happiness. That seems to be in the way to really invite that in. Now, I will say, as I’ve sort of fallen down this empty, well, really of my own doing, you know, where my I’ve let my energy stores get depleted. What I came to the realization of probably about six or seven days ago is I’m doing a really poor job of not just asking the divine for help, but asking anyone for help. It’s so fascinating to watch how quickly this happened, that I fell back into habits that I have, that I ended. And these are negative habits. I indeed years ago, years ago of not asking for help of just feeling like it would be easier to do it myself, or just not even figuring out what to ask for help, or if maybe I could count on someone to help me the right way or to support me the right way.
Now that gets a little trickier. It’s a little more complicated. It’s not one of those simple habits that you can employ right in this moment, like breathing, getting fresh air smelling, or tasting something sweet, but it is really important to look around and see, where are you blocking support? Where are you forgetting to ask for support? Or where are you concluding? That’s important. Just won’t show up for you. Cause that will take you really down a dark alley, right? If you don’t pull yourself back from that. And in that light, I will tell you, I, around this time of year, I used to give a training. As we started to go back into the back to school. Timeframe gave a training about how I created a 20 hour work week. And the heart of that training is about hiring support. So if you’re a business owner, even not a business owner, you know, hiring support in your home, hiring support with your kids, especially with the kids now, depending on where you live, possibly not going back to school full time.
I know ours aren’t, you know, they’ll, I mean, there’ll be in school some sort of school full time, but they’re only going to be in the classroom two days a week. They’re going to be learning from home. And that just brings in the need for so many different types of support. So really through to work on that muscle of allowing that support in, you know, whether it’s you asking of your partner or your kids, where people, you know, to help is really helpful to build that muscle and then figuring out who you can hire to help you if you’re in a position to hire. And I know as an entrepreneur, it’s very easy to get into a mindset that I don’t have the money to hire if you’re in a position to make money with your time. Right. And I know not everyone is, but if you’re in a position to make money with your time, whether you have a business or you work for someone else, then paying someone to do lower level tasks to do tasks that really aren’t your higher performing tests is, is, has a financial value to it, a positive financial value.
So not having the money to hire support is really a mental state. It’s not typically a true statement and because money is such a, such a strong issue right now. And I really honor that. I do honor that for so many. I did ask a friend of mine, Jen, or who’s just brilliant at hiring on a budget to do a training for my community. And it’s very short notice because when this, this drops on Wednesday, it’s tomorrow that she’ll be doing the training on August 20th. But if you are hearing this on Wednesday or Thursday, the training’s going to be at noon Eastern. It’s going to be how to hire a VA on a budget. If that sounds like something you need definitely join us. You can firstname.lastname@example.org forward slash training. If you miss the training and you want some support with those resources, definitely email me.
And if I, if we have announced through the training, any additional resources that she’s willing to give, then I can have my team send those to you. So you can just email me email@example.com. If you do miss the training and then whatever additional resources she gives, I will be happy to share with you. And you know what, actually, I’m just going to tell you, if you go to Patty lennon.com forward slash C E O whatever resources she provides, I’ll put a link to those on the page there. So again, as you can see, I’m doing this with, without, uh, really planning it out, because my main goal for this podcast was to just remind you that there’s a lot of heavy energy out there right now, but on the bright side, also let you know that the day this podcast drops is we will be in the energy of the new moon.
And that is a great time to set fresh intentions and to really bring in new energy. And again, if hiring and finding a way to leverage your business is a priority, then check out, go to Patti, lyons.com forward slash training and Patty lennon.com forward slash CEO. Hey, thank you so much for spending this time with me. I hope you have a beautiful week, and if you are feeling the happy vibe, please, please send some of those happy sparks out into the world because we are needing that happy do circulating. All right, have a wonderful day. Hey, thanks for listening. And if you know someone who needs to hear this message, please share this podcast with them. And if you’re feeling really generous, I’d love for you to leave us a review on your favorite podcast app. It helps us reach many more people, and it fills my heart with so much joy. When I hear what you had to say about what you heard, I am cheering for your success. Have an amazing day.