By MGAL Expert Lin Eleoff
I recently blogged about my friend Kataronica (a name I made up by combining the names Katarina and Veronica, just in case you decided to get all sleuthy and try and figure out who my friend is!)
Kataronica is in desperate need of a new contract. With herself. An AFGO Bustin’ Hokey Pokey Contract, no less.
Because her current crappy contract with herself is making her do all kinds of things she doesn’t want to do. Like: say “yes” when she means “no”; stay when she really wants to just leave; hang out with friends who don’t lift her up. In other words, she’s adhering to a self-contract that keeps her feeling small and worthless… and helpless. And she doesn’t even know that it exists.
Whisky Tango Foxtrot!
So, here is Kataronica’s old self-contract, which she entered into sometime between the ages of 6 and 16.
After reading this I grabbed Kataronica by the throat, and slammed her up against a wall. Okay, that’s not what really happened. We actually sat down at Starbucks for a half-caff-shlaff-caff-mocha-caff and had a little chat about writing a new self-contract—one that honored Kataronica and all the wonderful things about her.
As a lawyer, I just love drafting contracts—especially ones with clear-cut terms: terms that align you with your Soul. Those contracts are yummy and gooey and make you feel like a Queen riding a bicycle covered in whipped cream and chocolate sauce and… ahem, excuse me, that was a tangent.
So, how does one write an AFGO Bustin’ Hokey Pokey Contract? And what is an AFGO? And why do you have to turn yourself around after doing the Hokey Pokey anyway?
An AFGO, my darling princesses, is Another F*ing Growth Opportunity. You have thousands and thousands of AFGOs every day… or maybe only twenty-six, I’m not sure. The point is that you have all these opportunities to get it right for yourself: to say no; to improve your work situation; to get in better shape; to get along with your kids; to leave when you want to leave. The question is: Do you take advantage of these opportunities and grow from them? If not, you’re letting down your Soul. And you’re probably not even Hokey Pokeying at all.
Your AFGOs are opportunities for you to understand your true worth in this world. You are worth a lot. If that isn’t spelled out in your self-contract, it’s time to write a new one.