Do you find yourself at odds with making decisions? Is indecisiveness showing up more than normal? This episode is for you!
Patty walks you though a breathing practice to help you quiet your mind and slow the stress chemicals in your body.
Most of us have unconscious programming that can block making decisions. Our brain is wired to keep us safe. Trying new things, or making life-changing decisions, triggers our brain to begin warning us that danger lies with the unknown, so best not to make a change.
Patty shares a method to help stop this cycle so you can make decisions from a space of calm and what’s possible. (This is something you can do anytime you feel the back and forth about what feels right.)
Some of the patterns that stop us today, go back to the parts of ourselves we rejected when we were children. We were taught to do this to insure those who loved us wouldn’t reject us.
Indecision is often inner resistance. When this shows up, some of us push through no matter what and others get stuck and avoid making any decision at all.
Patty breaks down how to recognize the pattern, and the steps you can take to gain clarity around making decisions.
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0:00:04.5 S1: Welcome to the space for magic podcast, where people who are led by their hearts come to learn the secrets to receiving all the gifts the Universe has for us. I’m your host, Patty Lennon, an ex type a corporate banker turned intuitive coach using a blend of common sense, brain science and just a dash of magic I’m here to help you create abundance in every area of your life and business. Welcome.
0:00:36.6 S2: Hey there. Welcome to this episode of the space for magic podcast. I’m your host, Patty Lennon. And as always, I’m just so happy that you’re letting me spend a little time with you, because I know your time is precious, and if you find yourself at odds with time and at the same time at odds with decisions… And I’ll tell you a little bit about what I mean. Then this podcast is, I hope, going to help. So something that’s been coming up in our community this week as we open the doors to the receiving school is people making decisions in ways that they haven’t before, partly because of the Nike base for magic training that was going on last week, which you can still check out and access this week, it will be available until Sunday that we at this podcast drops, and you can find that Palin dot com training. And we did open the doors to the receiving school, and so as part of that training, we’ve been in discussion with people about whether this is the right time for them to join or not, and not just for that decision, but that one question has brought up a Tuesday conversation about feeling indecisive and what to do and what does it mean? And so, indecisiveness is really not the quagmire, we think it is, it’s truly a inner battle of very strong opinions going in two different directions, and it may not feel like an inner battle inside of you, but I promise you it is, and the two entities within you that are battling, are your head and your soul, you might call it your head in your heart, and we live in a time, they’re very much prioritizes the head over the heart, over the soul, and yet the soul holds that wisdom for us of what’s truly right for us, and as we’ve been talking to people, what I’ll tell them is, What does your soul want and need right now with this program, and you can apply that same question with anything, and within a few minutes of really someone being in a space of calm and quiet and we do that with just some clearing Brass, and actually I can do it for you right now, so just go ahead and breathe in and out and out, see how different you feel just on the other side of two breaths and three torus is optimal, but just with a few deep breaths, you can really start to quiet the mind, slow all those stress chemicals that try and get to pay more attention to our thoughts than to our intuition, and really start to drop down into the body and questions like if you knew it would all work out.
0:03:56.3 S2: What would you choose? These are questions that also help us ask, access our soul, because really what’s going on with the decisiveness is you’ve got some unconscious programming that’s blocking the decision, and who knows what it fears, but a lot of times… Especially in the year that we’re in, what if fears is elevation expansion, a greater level of success on your terms, and when you’re looking at life on your terms, that scares your brain, and here’s why your brain and more specifically, your MIG delay, your fear-based brain. It’s constantly tracking how to keep you safe, and one of the ways it knows that you’re safe is when you’re included and acceptable to other people. Now, is that the right answer? Now, but in the Migdal estimation, there’s nothing worse than being booted out of your community, being rejected by all people, the thing is sometimes we need to step away from some relationships to really find the people that are really meant to be in our lives, so that fear itself holds us back from having the quality of relationship, the quality of experience, the quality of life that we want, and so how do we get the soul to take president over the Migdal clinging need for acceptance in other people.
0:05:27.3 S2: And the way we do that is to start to receive ourselves, this is a big piece of what we talk about in the training, what does that mean? It means that the emotions you have and means that the thought you have, it means that the desire you have, it means that the gut instinct you have, they are meant to have a seat at the table, does that mean they rule the roost? It means at one instinct it might be instinct to punch someone. Does that mean that you do it? No, but you bring it in, you bring it into the conversation and you hear what it has to say, and the more you start to do that, the easier it is to notice the true answers that come from your intuition, and we walked everyone through an exercise on how to tap into that voice. But what I can tell you is, it comes in the form of a feeling, your intuition will typically start as a feeling of an answer and then turn into words, whereas information that comes from your head, from your brain, it starts from the head, and it really doesn’t create anywhere further in the body, meaning it stays just as energy up in the head.
0:06:38.0 S2: Now, that could be a little bit confusing, but if you think about some decisions you made, what to eat, what to put on, basic everyday decision, if you start to pay attention, you’ll lose that sometimes the answer comes in words first from your head, and sometimes it comes in feeling that turn into words from your belly and learning to tap into that wisdom that starts in the center of your body, in your God, in your solar plexus, whatever word most works for you, that is where your true wisdom is, and that is what can take you out of… In decision. Now, another thing we were talking a lot about is procrastination, so as we were talking about receiving yourself, what has come up for a lot of people is that they need to receive the fact that they’re tied, that they need more rest, and one question, a brilliant woman asked was okay, but I procrastinate all week on doing the work I need to do to move my business forward, now that I wanna rest on the weekends, I don’t feel like I can… Because there’s all this work I didn’t get done during the week.
0:07:55.6 S2: And so I keep working through the weekend and then I resent that my business is taking up all this time, and I never give myself permission to rest. Now, her real wisdom from within is telling her to rest but her head isn’t giving her permission because the Posey, she didn’t get enough done, and the procrastination is keeping her from getting the quote enough done during the week. And as we talked about it, what became clear is that procrastination can oftentimes be this very un really part of you that’s trying to force you to stop working, so it keeps distracting you away from more… Because what I really want you to do is take a break because your mind needs a break again, if you’re trying to solve a problem or do a task that feels a bit challenging, rest will build up their creative reserves to help you solve it. Amazing. Right? Now, as we jump into the receiving school, we go a lot deeper and doing this work of starting to receive ourselves because rejecting ourselves is something we are taught to do at a very young age, it is something that you’re taught to do from the moment that you see that something you do affects a person you love, you start to connect the dots to your behavior, being part of your relationship to other people, and what this means is when you do things as a small child that make the people around you happy, you equate that to being good.
0:09:36.6 S2: And when you do things around people that you love when you were little, that made them unhappy, you equated that to being bad or something that you didn’t want, and so you’ve rejected parts of yourself, you associated with those actions, that can include If you legitimately cried for whatever pain or upset and your family or caretakers or people you love and respect, it really gave you a negative reaction then your right to feel sad, you’re right to be upset, your right to feel needy and vulnerable, all those parts can get rejected in that moment, so as simple as that, it can also be that you had a need that your parents couldn’t fulfill and the way they reacted to it, you perceived as negativity, and it could have just been them being disappointed in themselves, not being able to fulfill the needs of… You don’t even have to have terrible parents for this to Kenyon, have loving-kind parents who are flawed, who are vulnerable themselves as parents, I know felt like that many times as a parent when I couldn’t fulfill a need a child had, and so we take in these signals that there’s things that we do that make other people happy, and there’s things we do, they make other people not happy, and we reach and accept the parts of ourselves that make other people happy and we reject the parts that don’t…
0:11:13.8 S2: The thing is, it’s all the parts that add up to being decisive, not procrastinating, building a life of our dreams, and so as you move into a place where you start to receive your truth about yourself, that is what really moves the dial on you escaping things like indecision and procrastination. We had an experience like this and receiving school that was so cool and just so powerful, one of our member, Stephanie was a mother of two children who had divorced her husband, they had been a difficult marriage, there had been some emotional abuse. She had always seen herself as this strong warrior type person, that was her personality, so acknowledging the toll that the emotional abuse had taken on her was very challenging for her, she really resisted it because the self she had learned to accept growing up was the top… The warrior kind of strong woman persona, so in her mind that strong warrior women wouldn’t have been abused or wouldn’t have let herself be abused or wouldn’t have been weak enough… These are hardware week enough to have been in a relationship with someone like that. And then the even worse part was, would have been able to overcome it, no one could have gotten to her essentially.
0:12:48.7 S2: And in doing this work, what she found was that there were some wounds there, there were some real deep bonds that were still lasting that came from… That came up, I should say, in really silly ways, and part of what had been a piece of her marriage was that she ended up juggling a lot of the balls, her husband had had an addiction, so she was making money, but also worrying about the kids and also worrying about helping him manage the addiction that he wasn’t managing effectively and doing a lot of the tasks that he relationship had been helping with to ensure that he kind of stayed away from his addiction to keep his stress levels down. So she was doing so much in that marriage, so now that she was out of it, she would find that silly things like shoveling snow would trigger her, and as we looked at why that was happening for her to receive her anger and having to shovel snow was started to come up, What bubble up was being a younger mother and the kids being little and meeting her and her husband refusing to go out and shovel the snow even though he needed to, and then criticizing the way she did it, and there was just all these little frustrations that were sending inside these bigger wounds, and that was just one piece of the puzzle that started to unpack, and the reason it even became Unpacked was because she started off saying, You know, it’s knowing I know I need to shovel, but I can’t even bring myself to do it, it’s like I can’t decide to go now or go later, and it’s like I’m stuck, and so I originally presented itself is just simple and decision, right? But a lot of times in decision isn’t simple, it’s this internal war that’s happening, this inner resistance, and so as I talk to her through it will tell me what would happen if you went out there and she was like, I just feel angry at the thought of having to go out there and we start to explore like, Okay, well, could you hire someone to…
0:15:06.2 S2: What’s the options here on the table, could the kids do it, ’cause the kids are older at this point, and that’s what helped during guided her to get to the heart of what she was really feeling, this is how deep or indecision or procrastination can take us and when you have a process to work through it, what can happen is really miraculous now, since then, and she’s done some other work inside the receiving school, it wasn’t just that particular piece of the puzzle. She has gotten two promotions… Well, I should say in the beginning, right at the start of this process, she got an amazing job, she had been unemployed, she got an amazing job, but then since then has gotten two promotions and she’s completely changed her home, she moved home, she found a fabulous home at an amazing price, she has redecorated it, and her money just keeps growing, her happiness is growing, and now she’s finally able to have relationships with men that are in toxic because now she’s gotten underneath with some of the work that needs to be done. So I just wanna assure you, if you are frustrated yourself, ’cause you’re having brain fog or you’re indecisive or you’re procrastinating, if you start to understand what was happening was this sort of inner tension that was really about you learning to receive yourself at a higher level and the…
0:16:35.4 S2: That receiving process would actually take you to whatever the next level is for you in success or happiness or expansion, if you knew that, what would it change for you? And to start, just start honoring the choices that are coming to you and pay more attention to the choice option that’s being fed to you by your gut, by the center of your body, because that’s where your intuition resides, and those are gonna be your best answers and the more you follow them, the more the magic will show up, the more your inspiration will grow and everything will start to feel a lot easier. Now, if you would like to join us in a receiving school or you wanna learn more about the receiving school, I would love to have… You can go to www receiving school dot com. We will be closing the doors to the fall semester on Friday, September 24, so as the date that this drops you, but just got a couple more days, so definitely go check it out. And if you wanna have sort of the lead of training to that the receiving school, then go to Palin dot com training, and you can still check it out for the next few days.
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