Guest Post from Britt Bolnick, Rock Star Life Coach
We’re a culture of make-it-go-away. We’re a culture of pop-a-pill-and-make-it-better. Of break-up-and-move-on. We’re encouraged to discard things that aren’t working- immediately. It’s just what we do.
And what I’m learning is that as tempting as that can be, what my life is asking of me right now is that when things get hard, I take a deep breath and SLOW DOWN. Focus in.
And it’s hard, mamas. It’s painful. Sometimes I want to throw something at the wall, grab a bag of potato chips, and eat the entire bag while watching Dexter. In bed.
But what I’m realizing is that when the relationships, the situations, that are in my life right now are worth the effort what they ask from us is to stop rushing, stop speeding, and become present.
My business is worth the effort. So when a program that I have and love wasn’t getting the enrollment that it should it was tempting to go to the place of “this sucks.” Of “I can’t do this.” And to just scrap it.
But I didn’t. I took a deep breath, and committed to really slowing down and going back to the beginning. Taking the whole program apart and looking at all the pieces- both what was working as well as what wasn’t. Because my work is important, and has value. And it deserves my time, my attention, and the slow, nurturing process of caring for it and building it from the ground up so that it has the strength to powerfully support the women who enroll in it
My kid is worth the effort. So at precisely the moment that she annoys me the most I take a deep breath and SLOW DOWN. Getting present with her. Putting down my phone, or setting my book on the bed. And looking at her. Hearing her. Slowing down to really see and hear what she needs in the moment.
Tough times tempt us to run, to speed up, to disconnect. But the things that we decide to fill our lives with deserve more than us rushing through them, disconnected, being only half there.
Where is one place in your life where you can resist the urge to speed up and instead hit pause to give yourself, that person, that situation the gift of presence, of attention, of slowness?
Britt Bolnick of In Arms Coaching provides structure, support, accountability and powerful tools for women who are ready to create clarity, balance and joy from a place of self-empowerment and inner wisdom…in EVERY area of their lives. Find her at In Arms Coaching.