Patty shares a story that she’s never talked about before. She also explains how she handled the difficult situation. In the moment she was unable to surrender to the love extended to her.
Why is surrendering important?
Hear how surrendering is the key to abundance, to love, to everything life has to offer. Patty also shares how-to surrender. Her PTO “just write the check” is so Patty. You’ll love it too.
When we try to stay strong, doing everything all alone, things can be hard. But it doesn’t have to be. That’s what surrendering does.
It allows you to let in the magic!
It’s okay to not know how to do these things. Most of us weren’t taught how to be honest with ourselves and asking for help when we need it.
How lovely would it be to wake up every day knowing how to surrender and welcome in love, and ease and abundance?
If you are ready for that to be easier join Patty’s training. It will make a difference for you.
SUBSCRIBE TO THE SPACE FOR MAGIC PODCAST ON YOUR FAVORITE PODCAST PLATFORM
0:00:04.3: Welcome to the Space for Magic podcast where people who are led by their hearts come to learn the secrets to receiving all the gifts the Universe has for us. I’m your host, Patty Lennon, I’m an ex-Type A corporate banker turned intuitive coach. Using a blend of common sense, brain science, and just a dash of magic, I’m here to help you create abundance in every area of your life and business. Welcome. Hey.
0:00:36.8: There. Welcome to this episode of the Space for Magic Podcast. I’m your host, Patty Lennon. And today, I gonna be sharing this story, I don’t think I’ve ever shared before, and the story, it’s not that I’ve hidden it, it just hasn’t seemed important or just didn’t… The relevance of it wasn’t as in focus for me until I was recently finishing up the manuscript of my new book Space for Magic, that’ll be out in the fall, and this was one of the stories when I went back to moments where I could see… I had squeezed out space for Magic, which is something that I’m so passionate about teaching now, is how to undo that how do I do that way of living this story really rose to the surface, and so this was years ago, my mom had… When my mom was diagnosed with cancer and she came to tell me, and what had happened that day was that… It was an ordinary day, it was a Saturday, and my husband and I were out in our cul de sac with the kids, and they were little, and they ride in their little trike and their little whatever, around and around and around, and I remember just for me, that time I know it’s supposed to be glorious and all of that, but it was always just so brutal, the way they just would go around and around and around, and I would say, Oh, what is this gonna end when are they going to do something else.
0:01:57.8: Just then I saw my parents walking around the corner to the cul de sac coming towards us, and I was jolted by something being off, and at first I didn’t know what it was, it’s only in remembering the memory that I realized what it was, was the mom would drop by all the time, almost everyday to see the kids… My dad never came with her and it wasn’t he didn’t like the kids, he just wasn’t that kind of dude, he played cards and he did his grandpa things, but he was always happy to see the kids, but he wouldn’t drop by daily for a visit and there they were together. And so I was so shut down to being in the moment that I couldn’t even absorb what was going on there that was throwing me but looking back on it now, I can see it was the presence of my father and in that spontaneous visit. And so somehow my Mom conveyed to my husband that he needed to take the kids in the house with my dad and that she needed to talk to me, and she sat me down and she said… And she had just gotten a shoulder replacement, and she said, you know, they did the scan and on the shoulder to see how it was healing and they found something, and you know those words are words that I think most of us have come to know mean Generally one thing, and it was exactly what that thing was cancer, and in fact, she had lung cancer, that was what they suspected it was, and my immediate reaction was to just push all my emotions down and to just step into my…
0:03:36.8: Can do, I’ll take care of it. Hero, saint, martyr, whatever you wanna talk… Whatever you wanna call it, role, where I was just gonna help her, we were gonna stay positive, and everything was gonna be okay. And that’s all I allowed. And now, as I look back so many years later at that moment, I could see the way my mom looked at me, she didn’t need me to take care of her in that moment, she needed to be able to take care of me, but I couldn’t let it in… Because it wasn’t my identity, I didn’t understand that the only thing I understood was how to be the caretaker, how to be the giver… Especially in a situation like that. Now, as the months and the next couple of years passed, I would need to be a caretaker for her and she would need that, but in that moment, she was ready to hold me, but I couldn’t surrender into that moment. And as I look back on the journey I took with her, there is very few regrets that I have, they just… That journey brought me to the place I’m in now, and it’s the place of If it’s gifted me with all that I know about what it means to be human and surrender and all those good things.
0:04:57.0: But that’s one place I wish I could go back to. I wish I could go back and just shake myself and let myself be held, but I didn’t know how to do that, I did not have those skills, and through the next couple of years until my mom crossed, we learned that together, we learned how to be held by another… ’cause my mother, I definitely did not suck it off the grass, my mom had been the same way for everyone else, and so together she learned how to accept help, and later on, amazingly, as she was at her weakest, I learned how to surrender into her love. And there was so much value in learning how to surrender, there’s so many gifts that come up at, that’s how we learn how to allow in the gifts that the universe has for us, the divine has for us. This surrendering isn’t surrendering to a mother or surrendering to a friend or a partner, surrender is just an energy, it’s just a way of being, it’s learning how to surrender and really it’s the Divine Mother or the universe or whatever you wanna call it. That really is the one that we’ve received the most benefit from by surrendering because when a problem gets too big for us to solve, for our human selves to solve, she’s waiting to help us, but we have to let her and the way that we let her is by surrendering, that’s when we let down our resistance and the way we’re holding it all together, and we finally say, help…
0:06:31.4: Help me, and over the years, I think one of the biggest things people look for is, you know, how do I let in more abundance, how do I let in more abundance, how do I solve this lack issue, and it doesn’t matter if it’s a lack of abundance in finance or health or love, wanting a romantic partner, whatever it is, we can do what we do, but then we have to surrender to the journey and learning how to do that is… I find the big work for us as humans, recently, I was involved with some stuff with the school, with our school, and that’s gonna involve some fundraising, and if you have been following me for a while, if you’ve been to my events or been to events I’ve spoken at it’s possible you’ve heard the write the check keynote as it’s come to be known, but if you don’t know the story a few years ago, gosh, probably a lot of years ago now, I was responsible for giving a talk, a brief talk at our open house at our schools open house with the intention of getting people to participate in our public schools one fundraiser a year, and the way that the story went down was that I got up and as I was talking, I said, Look…
0:07:51.3: ’cause what we do is a walk-a-thon, I’m like, Look, you don’t wanna go out there door to door with your kid trying to get people to sponsor them, you don’t have a lot of time in your hands, you don’t wanna read all the literature that went home, so here, I’m gonna make it really easy on you, just write the check. Right, just write the check. And I was a little saltier than that, but the crowd was laughing about it, and later on, people told me that we had raised the most money from that particular talk because… And here’s why, the reality is that people just wanted to be told it’s okay to not wanna participate, we… It’s okay to want the easy way out, which for most people it was ’cause we didn’t need a lot like the check amount was 35 to participate, which is a lot for some people, and I made that clear if that was a lot of money, then don’t worry about it, but if it isn’t, and you just need to be told, You don’t have to go door to door that it’s okay to just write the check, it’s okay to write the check, and sometimes we just need to be here to hear that it can be easy the funny thing is, what I have never told from the stage about that talk is that the day that I gave it, I was in a mood, I had no intention of giving that talk that day, I was gonna go and just explain what our PTO does and why? To contribute, blah, blah, blah.
0:09:17.7: But I was in a mood… And I don’t even know why I was in a mood, I don’t remember what was happening at the time, but I was done. I was just done with BS of all levels, and I’m like, This is ridiculous. I’m not gonna get up there and convince these people that this Walk-a-thon needs to be engaged with at the highest level, I’m just gonna tell them the truth, and the truth is… We just want the check. That’s really the truth. And the reason I’m telling you that story is that I always get asked, How do you surrender? Like what are the mechanics of surrender when things feel… So hard and it feels like you have to keep all the plates spinning. How do you surrender? And I can tell you that the first step is, to tell the truth, to just get honest. And when I look back at that moment with my mom, if I could have just been honest in the moment with myself, I didn’t wanna be strong for her, I did want her to hold me, I did want her to take care of me, and that’s what she wanted, that’s what she wanted the most out of that moment, and I kept her from having that moment, and I kept myself from having that gift, all because I believe that I was supposed to be so strong and I was supposed to hold it together.
0:10:38.8: And the thing is, the divine feels the same way, probably by a million thousand times what my mother, felt for me in that moment, she wants to hold us, she wants to take care of us, she wants to make it easier, but as long as we try and stay strong and keep all the plates spinning, she can’t help, because that’s the contract we arranged with the divine, that’s the contract we arranged with the universe, was that we would come with free will to live our life the way that we wanted to, and she would let us and when we needed help, all we had to do was ask, but until we ask she wouldn’t step in? And so we need to learn how to ask, we need to allow… To learn how to allow it, and I know that can be really tricky when I say create space for magic, that’s what I’m talking about. Making the space for the universe, for God source, the divine to help. And so if you need help with that, I want to invite you to join us for the three-part or of going on right now, as of the time that you’re watching this if you’re watching on the day that The Podcast drops, we just had our first training yesterday, we have a second one tomorrow, and they build on each other, and then a final one on Monday.
0:11:52.5: And what I’ll be sharing in that series and what I shared yesterday was really how we got to the place that we’re at, or we feel like we have to keep all these plates spinning, where we always are in this state of… I can do it by myself. And once you understand how that happened and how the universe interacts with you in that training, I show you what to do first to start to let in some of the magic to make space for it, but tomorrow, tomorrow is going to be the really juicy one, and that’s why I really hope you join us, so you can find the link to sign up if you haven’t already, at PattyLennon.com/training. And the reason tomorrow is going to be so incredible is because I’m going to talk to you about one of the rules of receiving or rules of surrender, and when I say, rule, I really use that word lightly, and I’ll give you what the rule is, and the rule is receive yourself, and this goes directly back to what happened with me and my mom at that moment where she told me that she had cancer, I couldn’t receive myself, I shut down myself.
0:13:01.6: I didn’t hear the truth that I needed to tell myself, and we have all been trained to do that since we were little… For lots of different reasons. For you, it might be that you have parents that couldn’t properly take care of you until you had to learn how to do it by yourself, or maybe you had a parent that had challenges and you didn’t wanna burden them… There’s a million reasons why we get to where we’re at, but the reality is that most of us get to a place where we don’t honor what we to need and we don’t tell ourselves the truth. And figuring out how to get back to the place where we can honor who we are and we can fully receive ourselves is difficult without an understanding of the mechanisms of how to do that, and that’s what I’m gonna be sharing tomorrow. It’s okay that you don’t know how to surrender, if that’s you, it’s okay if you’re still trying to be strong for so many people, especially in a year like We’re in… That’s okay. That’s part of what makes you good. Right, but if we don’t balance it with learning how to let in help from other people, from the divine, from the universe, life is a lot harder than it needs to be, and you’re here for a purpose, you’re here for a purpose.
0:14:17.9: And the more you resist letting in this abundance, letting in this help, letting in this ease, the more challenging it is for you to truly honor your purpose on the planet. I found that since I’ve learned to honor this process, this process of receiving, this process of surrendering, this process of making space for magic, my life is night and day from what it used to be, and it doesn’t mean that challenges disappear instantly the minute we ask for help, that’s not what this is about. The challenges are part of our journey on this planet as humans, but it does suddenly feel less scary, in fact, the fear just gets drained out of challenges, and so you’re greeted with a challenge. And this is how it is for me, and I know this is how it is for a lot of people that have gone through the receiving school, which is where we take this even deeper. The challenges come to you, and instead of feeling like you are going to just crumble under the weight of them, every day, you wake up knowing that there’s help available, knowing that you’re not in it alone, and knowing that something beautiful is gonna come on the other side, of this, your…
0:15:35.0: My journey with my mom through her cancer was so difficult and there were so many points where because I didn’t understand this, it was harder than it needs to be, but what I can tell you is as much as I miss her and as much as I would trade all these lessons to have her back with me, there was so much beauty and so many gifts that came out of that time for both of us, and if you’re ready for that shift for it to be easier for who you are in this moment, to be your truth, and for that truth to be golden, for it to be perfect, for it to be exactly what it needs to be, then I really hope you’ll join us for the training ’cause I think it will make a difference. I really do… As part of the training series… One of the things that I did starting last week was I launched a game called The space for magic treasure hunt… And the way the treasure hunt works is I give you a list of items and you can play. The treasure hunts could be going on till April 3rd, so when you join the training, you’ll get access to the treasure hunt, so it give you a list of items, you picture them once in your head, and then you just wait for them to show up, and we’ve had tons of winners already, and we’re giving out prizes, and we’ve been mailing prizes every day since we started last Tuesday.
0:16:55.0: And what’s so fun is the way that these items show up for people, and the purpose of the game is, first of all, just to have a little fun because, Hello, we are in a time where all of us need fun, but the other reason I do the treasure hunt is because it helps people understand how easy it is for things to come into their realm when they let go when they just think about something that they want to show up and then they let go of it and they don’t stay attached, and you don’t have to visualize, and you don’t have to make a vision board for it, and you don’t have to affirm that these items are coming, you just think about them once and then let it go and then they show up. And what’s so fun is watching people be so amazed at how quickly they show up, there was one person that I thought her story was fascinating, so there’s three items on the treasure hunt list, don’t worry if you finish it, I can send you another treasure hunt list so there’s three items, and I would say depending on what kind of lifestyle you are, one of them is gonna be easier to come into your realm than another, in this particular woman’s case, she was like, Wow, I knew that this item was all around me, so it would probably show up super quick, but these other two, I really wasn’t sure when they show up, and she goes, What’s crazy is the other two showed up within hours of starting, but I still haven’t seen this one that I know is all around me, and what I love about that, and why I like doing the treasure hunt in relationship to this training is because the treasure hunt shows us where our blocks to abundance are, and so for this particular person, her block was once she thought she knew how it was gonna come, she got attached, and she may not realize it, but having done this with so many people and in so many different environments, I know how this works, is the way her brain works is once she knows how to do something, the idea of getting help just goes out of her head, right? That’s just how she’s built, and that’s how a lot of us are built, and so this thing, the she knows is all around her, she has not seen…
0:19:02.7: Now, what I’ve found is that the Divine universe, whatever we’re doing a call also steps into this game to give people the information they need, I’m sure the universe is are working hard to block this one item from her view, just to show her where her blocks are, but for a lot of people, the items just roll in because the reality is these items, other than getting a prize in the game, there is a… Who cares if they come or not… Right, so there’s no attachment. And so that’s the real fun of the game, is seeing how easy it can be when we truly let go, right, when we stay in a place of non-attachment, and so it’s a real fun way to feel what it feels like to be in surrender and something that is in critical. Right, so that sounds like something fun to you, definitely, if you just wanna get in on the treasure hunt, join the training, and when you get to the Thank You page, you’ll have a link to the treasure hunt, we are giving away prizes, in fact, there’s prices for everyone, everyone can win. And then there’ll be one grand winner of 100 gift card, so everyone can win…
0:20:09.3: Everyone can win, no problem, there’s no risk if someone beating you out, right, that’s really how the universe works, there’s more than enough for everyone and everyone can be a winner. So if this resonates with you, I would love for you to join us, but whether you join us for the training or not, here’s what I want you to walk away with. Right now, there’s something that’s difficult in your life, there just is, it’s the way that humanity works were always… It might be something simple like You have to get groceries and you don’t really feel like getting groceries, or it could be something really challenging, like someone you love just told you that they have cancer, whatever it is that right now, what I want you to do is just stop for a moment and tell yourself your truth, how do you really feel, what do you really want? And how can this be easier, just start with yourself, don’t worry about every other person in the next… Start with yourself, that doesn’t mean if you need to… If you’re at home with your little ones and I feel you, and you’re just like, I just want to escape to an island, right? That does mean gonna instantly escape to an island, but first just honoring that that’s really truly what you want without putting any shoulds on it, Oh, I should be grateful for my Healthy Kids, I should be grateful for the roof over my head, I should be grateful that even though they have cancer, they’re still here with me, you know, that comes, that gratitude is valuable as the next step, but the first step is, to be honest with where you are and what you need…
0:21:40.7: Because that honesty is what’s gonna allow the divine to help you again, I hope you join us for the training, it’s going to be a lot of fun, we’ve already started, so you can drop right in a binge-watching right now, go to PattyLennon.com/training, and either way, whether you join us or not, I want you to know you are loved beyond measure, that there are forces waiting to support you no matter what, and all you have to do to start is just tell yourself the truth.
0:22:10.6: Hey, thanks for listening. If you know someone who needs to hear this message, please share this episode with them, and if you’re feeling really generous, I’d love for you to leave us a review at your favorite podcast app, it helps us reach many more people and it fills my heart with so much joy when I hear what you have to say about what I’ve shared. I’m cheering for your success, have an amazing day, and don’t forget. Always create space for magic.