It’s been 10 years since Patty’s mom passed. Since that time, her dad has also crossed over. She recognized how much she’s changed and how different her own experiences have been around grief. Understanding the grief process is the topic for today’s episode.
We are all going to have some experiences with grief. If you’re in the midst of grieving, it can be hard to know how does understanding the journey help with what I’m feeling today?
First, she reminds us that when someone has crossed over, they are really close to us. They are likely sending lots of signs to help you know you are loved. We often miss those so it’s worth remembering when you’re in a difficult moment.
Another helpful thing is to allow what you are feeling and how you are navigating be your “normal” for today. If you are putting forward effort to get up when you don’t feel like I, acknowledge that. Recognize the effort and what it takes to both grieve and be present in your day-to-day life.
She also reminds us that it’s okay to seek help. You may find yourself thinking thoughts that are (for you) not typical. There may also be times when you think “what’s the point of this” when you are missing your loved one. Patty shares that this is normal, and it’s okay to do things that are simple that don’t require a lot of focus.
Like so many things in life, grief is not linear. It will ebb and flow and Patty reminds us that there is no finish line. Grief is not a problem to be solved. The good news is that you’ll have good days again. Happiness will come back, sometimes when you least expect it.
A final thought from Patty’s parents; your loved ones can and will continue to support you. It may not look the way you expect, but they are still here for us. If you aren’t feeling this support, it’s okay to ask for signs and let your loved one know you are looking for them.
Grief is life altering. As painful as it is, there are also gifts available to us at this time as well. Be open to receiving them and treat yourself with compassion as you navigate this journey.