I took the trip without my husband because, really, he needed and deserved a break from all of us (me). And I’m a control freak so I do much better when I can set and monitor the kids’ schedule myself.
This is the first time I’ve seen my sis since mom died 7 weeks, 6 days and 2 hours ago (but whose counting). We both love her like crazy. There is something comforting in being with someone who understands your grief because theirs is just as big.
I came home from that trip to find a house cleaned from top to bottom, two children’s rooms rearranged and the statement that “we needed new Feng Shui” from a guy (my hubs) who isn’t even sure how to spell Feng Shui.
My conclusion – I’m a lucky gal.
My other conclusion – I choose the level of happiness I experience based on the time and space I give myself to be happy.
Before the trip, there was a part of me that felt like I should be working when all I really wanted to do was see my sister. Part of me thought I should force my husband to go because it seemed more “normal.”
During the trip my kids berated me for candy, treats and toys. I gave them most of what they asked for. It’s been a tough summer for all of us. They deserved some extra fun too. And it made my life easier to just say yes. “Yes” felt happy.
Are you expecting too much from yourself right now?
In this moment are you doing the thing that will bring you greater happiness?
Or are you beating yourself up for not being perfect?
You deserve to be happy.
Magic happens when you begin to create the circumstances to allow happiness. The opposite is doing what you are “supposed to do” or expecting yourself to be somewhere you “should be.”
You are where you are. How can where you are be more happy?
Forget the rules.
Reach for happiness. Screw everything else.