Patty is sharing a powerful personal story about debt. She recently mentioned this in an email and the response was significant. This week’s episode is helpful for all of us, especially for those of us who have had to deal with debt.
You may be dealing with that now. 2020 changed circumstances for many people. Like Patty, you may feel that it is unfair. After working hard, playing by the rules, and being a good person it doesn’t feel right that you have to deal with difficult financial circumstances.
One of the key steps in understanding how to deal with debt is recognizing our feelings around it. Patty shares how acknowledging her shame and anger around her financial situation is what created the space for help.
She explains how you can do this too. Recognizing the resistance in your life is the first step to create the space for all the things you want. Find out how to tap into the wisdom that lives inside you.
If you’d like to know more about creating space to receive in your life, join Patty’s new free training.
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0:00:04.3: Welcome to the Space for Magic Podcast, where people who are led by their hearts come to learn the secrets to receiving all the gifts the Universe has for us. I’m your host, Patty Lennon, I’m an ex-type-A corporate banker turned intuitive coach. Using a blend of common sense, brain science, and just a dash of magic, I’m here to help you create abundance in every area of your life and business. Welcome.
0:00:36.6: Hey, they’re welcome to this episode of the space for magic podcast. I’m your host, Patty Lennon, and this episode is being brought to you by The Make Space for Magic Series. You can access that series at pattylennon.com/training. It will begin on March 23. And what’s gonna happen in this series is that you are going to be given exactly step-by-step, the tools that you can use to make space for Magic. Oh my goodness. Isn’t that fun? So let’s jump in. Today, I’m gonna be sharing something I actually wasn’t expecting to be sharing, and the reason is I feel like I’ve shared this story before, and yet I wrote an email last week and it got a huge response and it was about this story, and I saw… it made a really big difference for people, and it occurred to me that sometimes we think we’ve told everyone our stories, at least that’s how I feel sometimes, and maybe we haven’t shared it as much as we can or should or need to, and this story certainly seems to be one that people wanted to hear, benefited from hearing, and so I wanna make sure it gets to as many people as possible, and that is the story of my journey with debt.
0:01:56.1: Now, I am no stranger to debt, I know what it feels like to have the weight of debt on your shoulders, I know what it feels like to feel that shame, to just wanna hide it from the world and to feel that you have this… The secret that no one knows about you, the way I came into my debt, I guess you would say, is a confluence of events. So as you probably know, if you’ve been listening for a while, my mom ended up having cancer and eventually crossing as a result of that cancer, so her physical body died as a result of the cancer, and that was eight years ago. And during the time leading up to that, I left my corporate job, launched my business. The same weekend, I launched my business, my husband lost his job, and we soon found out that my mom had cancer and I became her caretaker on that journey, and that span of that time was about two and a half years. And during that time, because I wasn’t making the kind of money I had made in corporate banking at first in my business because we were…
0:03:05.0: My husband was out of work and because I couldn’t put as much time and energy, my business as I would have been otherwise if my mom was healthy, we acquired a significant amount of debt, and I had not been what “a debtor” before that. I had never been in debt before, I had always made a lot of money and I was never extravagant with my spending, so by the time my mom passed away, I was incredibly grief-stricken and depleted, and just so many words stressed, anxious, there was just so much going on. And I was at the cemetery. I would go there almost every day to visit my mom and then go for a walk, and I was walking through the cemetery and it had already been a few months since she had passed, and so the grief was starting to wear off, and the reality of my life was starting to set in, and what I mean by that if you’ve lost someone close to you, There is this window of time after they cross, or at least this is what I’ve experienced, where you have this protective fog around you where the clarity of what matters in the world is really present for you because you know that the only thing that matters is love and your relationship to people, but eventually that protective bubble wears off and life starts to set in again, and so I was walking in the cemetery and at first I just started to kind of speak out loud, I was just really talking to anyone who would listen, my guides, my mom, God, whoever.
0:04:49.0: And I started saying, Why am I in this situation? Why do we have all of this debt? It felt so unfair. And the more I walked, the angrier I got, and I just… I’m in the cemetery a lot of times, there was really no one around, and I doubt there was anyone around at the time, and I’m like… Literally screaming like, What is wrong? What did I do to deserve this? I did everything right, and I follow your calling. At this point, I was talking to God, I followed your calling to do my work in the world. And Matt, my husband has always been a dedicated, loyal worker, and we are not extravagant spenders, and we’ve done everything right, and I was there for my kids and I was there for my mom. Gosh, this is… Bringing tears my eyes even now, ’cause I can just feel how confused and frustrated I was at the time, it just felt so unfair, and I said, What do I have to show for this… This dedication that I made to what I felt at the time was, You know, God’s calling and doing what I should be doing.
0:06:06.8: And what do I have to show for? But I’m just… My heart’s broken, and I’ve got crushing debt, and I just in that moment, the taste of bitterness, the taste of regret, the feeling that I had been totally and completely abandoned was so fresh, it was just… Every sense in my body was filled with this feeling of abandonment that I had just been let down and looking back, I can tell you underneath it, there was this deep sense of shame that maybe I had dropped the ball, that if I had been more of something a better entrepreneur, a better daughter, a better wife. If something that it would be different right now, and I was really letting loose, I wasn’t being specifically connected to any particular being, but I guess if I was honest, I was directing it towards God, which for me when I say the divine, I usually feel more of the divine feminine, when I say that, and God, I usually feel more of the divine masculine, that kind of God I grew up with, and that’s who I was pointing my rage at, and just then as I got the last bit of that vitriol off my chest, this light and loving energy wrapped around me, and this is an energy I’ve come to know as my angels, which they tend to be a bit different than my spirit guides who are much more directive, much more clear.
0:07:49.7: My angels just have a lighter, more loving energy about them, and just for your own reference… ’cause this was after I sent out this email, I got this question from a few people, how do you tell the difference between your angels and guides? And I think it works differently for everyone, but what I found is the distinction is Angels have never incarnated, whereas your spirit guides have, they’ve been human at some point, so angels really look at us with complete awe and their job for the most part, from what I can gather is to just make sure we don’t lose track of how much we’re loved. That we still create, that they create this, even if it’s just a tiny hairline tether to love that we just always have love present in our life that they understand that this is truly, the lifeblood of our soul, and so they wrapped around me and they sent Patty… You are not being punished. Debt is nearly the symptom of having given more than you have to give, and it’s time that you take care of yourself, and that statement is what I believe created such a reaction in the email I sent out. Because what I heard from people is, I have been studying Money in spirituality for years, this is what someone said to me, I feel like I’ve read every book on the topic, and no one has ever said that to me, and Hey, I can raise my hand on that as well, because up until that moment, no one had presented me with that concept either, and that one statement to me created space, right.
0:09:33.8: When I talk about this space for magic, this is what I’m talking about, and if you have debt right now, whether your debt is financial or time deficit like you just never have enough time or you feel like you’re always behind in your obligations. If you understand that that is happening because you’re trying to give more than you have to give, suddenly that changes the perspective, right. Because suddenly you go from being someone that’s wrong or not enough or unworthy to someone who just needs to change the balance, and then from there, that teaches us that we need to move out of giving mode and move into receiving mode. And what I had said in that email was that you know, I often attribute the creation of the receiving school to that year after my dad died and learning, being open to everything that was coming, how drastically my life changed for the better. And that’s really what taught me what this receiving muscle was really about, that receiving is an energy, and then blocking receiving, which I call resistance is an energy field, it’s not targeted at money or a romantic partner or better house.
0:10:50.9: But it’s really this field of resistance, but that’s what I learned the year after my dad died, but really this idea that I gave more than I received and learning how to change that, that started in that cemetery with that one conversation. And you know what I found most fascinating about the responses I got to that story in that email was that so many people held shame around their debt and that that one statement changed something for them, and it also gave them a new way to look at it and I get it because that’s what it did for me. It started me on a path of… In a completely different trajectory around resolving that debt and… you know, we’re out of debt at this point in our lives, and I can tell you that that freedom that comes without that burden didn’t come the way I wanted it to come, the way we wanted to come is someone to drop in with a magic wand and wave it over the debt and erase the debt to just give us a big pile of money to fix it, and… I get it, and for some people, I think it really does happen that way, and eventually, we did have large chunks of money come in in a few different ways, but really what had to happen for me…
0:12:06.0: And I think everyone’s journey is different, is I had to first see myself differently, I had to really look at the shame I was holding, and I’m not sure if that money had just been dropped in our laps and resolved that debt, if I would have resolved that shame if I would have released it or would I have always held on to it and thought that we were saved, rather than knowing that I saved myself, which is ultimately where we got to, and what it also required was that I get honest with some people and ask them for help in my family, and that took so much courage, but when you get honest, it just relieves so much resistance that exist, and you don’t even know how exhausting the resistance is until you start telling the truth, and then the end of that trip the end of that journey was where that money started flowing in, but what happens a lot of times is we want the problem to go away, and we look at manifestation work or Law of Attraction work, we try and bring in the answer to the problem, what our human mind thinks the answer to the problem is, which is for debt would be money, right.
0:13:24.0: But you know, if it’s you’re looking for a romantic partner, then you believe the romantic partner coming into your life is the answer, or if you want more support around the house, you believe it’s those other people changing… Right, and that’s the final way that it shows up in your reality, but if we get that final manifestation without learning what we need to learn along the way, we miss out, and the divine knows that and loves us and will only deliver to us the answers that actually serve our highest path, and I think this is where for so many regions, a lot of the traditional law of attraction work gets off track, and I wanna talk a little bit about that in the first place, and I saw this a lot with the emails, I got about… This story is, there’s a lot of ideas that we have to stay positive, that if you feel what you’re feeling and it’s negative, that you’re attracting more negativity to you, and I know I was taught that in what I was learning, and I found just the opposite is true, it wasn’t until I actually acknowledge the anger and the bitterness, and then ultimately the shame that I was having, that I gave enough space for the angels to even give me that message, and then from that message that I was able to start to allow in help and ask for help, and from there, that I was then able to open up to these larger sums of money and releasing the debt, and that belief that you have to stay positive is so toxic, it’s so toxic, and it is one of the biggest manifestation myth out there is that belief, and I found just the opposite is true, is when you are feeling a legitimate emotion, you have to let that emotion flow in order to release it, and when you don’t, and when you push it down inside of you, that actually creates resistance and that resistance keeps out all of the other solutions you’re looking to flow into your life, and yet when you just get honest with yourself and let yourself feel what you need to feel, all of the sudden he answers start to show up.
0:15:40.0: And I’ve seen this time and time again, and I was just doing an interview with someone from the receiving school. We were collecting stories because we’re gonna be starting receiving school again, and we know people as they’re thinking of joining like to hear stories and over and over and over again, we’re hearing stories of… I came into Receiving School because I wanted more money, I wanted to better job, I wanted a different romantic partner or a better romantic partner, I wanted my romantic partnership to improve. And then for all those people, they got that, but actually what they got was themselves back, and I asked this person I was interviewing yesterday, she said, it’s just who I am today is so different than who I was when I started receiving school, and I said, Well… But do you think if you could travel back in time and see yourself back then and tell yourself that what she really needed was to receive herself like that was actually going to change her life, which he had believed you, and she said No, she would have thought it was the job. She would have thought it was the relationship.
0:16:48.1: And so I get it back then. I thought the money was the most important thing, and standing here now, I can tell you it’s something different, the money is important. Don’t get me wrong, the relationships are important, the support is important, but those are symptoms, and when there’s not enough, it’s a symptom that you’re not enough to yourself, and when there’s more than enough, it’s because you’ve fully accepted yourself. And so this is the work. And so where you start is by receiving yourself today, it’s receiving exactly who you are today, and everything you feel ashamed about because all your shame is bullshit, your same is bullshit, there is nothing for you to be ashamed about because here is the truth, at every moment of every day, you are doing the very best you can with what you have and what you know, fundamentally, as humans, we’re programmed to do the very best we can with who we are and what we know, it’s just that at different times, we have different resources and we know different things, and so we may just not know as much as we knew, or when we’ve caused a challenge like debt to be created, and now we’re standing here so much later, we may be able to look back and realize we could have made different decisions, but we didn’t have that information at the time.
0:18:08.8: Especially when deaths being created in a situation like I had, which I know happens for a lot of people, is all of the sudden life situations start changing and they create anxiety and panic and stress, and you don’t have all access to your higher thinking brain functionally, You really don’t have access to that part of your brain that can see those solutions, so… Yes, once you start to step away from the situation that had all that stress and anxiety for me, it was walking my mom through her cancer and then dad, then also with my husband being out of work, when those situations, the stress in them starts to dissipate and then the stress hormones flowing through your body and then generating other hormones in your brain start to dissipate and you are able to think more clearly… Yeah, you can make different decisions, but you couldn’t back then, and the thing is, this is what you need to remember. The divine knows that even when you cannot remember that for yourself, the divine knows it, so there is no judgment and there is no punishment, and the path you’re being guided to walk to resolve whatever challenge is in front of you is exactly the steps that are gonna take you to the highest version of your life, I can sit here today with all the gifts in my life, precisely because that debt was not solved by a pile of money that day when I was so angry in the cemetery, my ability to share this with you today is because I needed to walk the challenge as I walk and walk through the fires, I walked through, not just so I could share it with you, but so that when a new fire appeared, I would look at and go, Well, that’s no big deal.
0:20:03.1: I can solve that. And that has happened. I have faced far bigger challenges since that day, and when I look at them, I have 100% faith that the divine will guide me every step of the way, and also that the wisdom of what to do next is within me, and that is what lowers the stress reaction, that is what lowers the amygdala, fear brain impulses and let you act from this higher thinking place from this soul wisdom place, and so we have to walk through our fires to get to that place, right? So if this feels like information that you need, if this feels like something you wanna take deeper then, I highly recommend you join us for the free training series, I’m about to give… It starts on March 23rd, make space for magic series in it. I’m going to go through exactly how resistance is formed and what this really means and what this looks like, that’s what we’re gonna do on the first training, on the second training that happens on the 25th, I’m gonna go deep, deep, deep into how to receive yourself and then then in that third training, and all of these are gonna be live, so you’ll be able to ask me any questions you have, I’m gonna go through the entire process of what it looks like once you receive yourself, how do you get to being in a relationship of receiving so that life doesn’t feel hard anymore, and I’m not gonna say it’s instantly gonna feel easy, but I will tell you it’s gonna get monumentally easier just by listening to that series, you will trust more, you will understand.
0:21:46.0: You will be able to see how you’re already being guided, and I think this is something really critical right now, as I’m hearing it from a lot of people, people are telling me they just aren’t having fun anymore, like life isn’t fun, and I promise you, life is supposed to be fun, even when crappy things are happening in between the cracks, of the crappiness… There is fun to be had, there is playfulness to feel, and so many people have told me, I don’t even know what would make me have fun anymore, I don’t even know what would make me feel happy. I’m not even sure what possibilities I even see for myself anymore, and I promise you, if any of that is true, this series is designed to shift that for you because that stuff is ready waiting for you. Right here in this moment, it’s not six months from now, it’s not even three months from now, that is waiting for you right here, so if you’d like to join us for that, I’d love to have you in the series again, it’s free, you just go to pattylennon.com/training, and you will be…
0:22:50.2: You’ll immediately get access to the registration information and you’ll also get access to our space for magic treasure hunt, so this is a fun game we’re gonna be playing throughout the series, it’s gonna start… Or it’s actually already started. By the time this drops, I’ll have started on the 16th. And with the treasure hunt, we’re gonna be giving away prizes, first of all, so that’s super fun, there’s even gonna be a chance to win cash Ola, and what this is going to do, in a really fun and easy way is show you how easy it is to get signs to get clues, to get the next step on your journey to wherever you’re going, whether it’s to release debt, whether it’s to release weight, whether it’s find fun again in passion and possibility, whatever it is. I promise you this treasure hunt is gonna give you some of the clues, so if that sounds good to you, I look forward to having you in the training again, pattylennon.com/training, and what I’ll just leave you with today is whatever is going on for you, whatever you’ve created that you have some level of shame around, or disappointment or disapproval-ing yourself, receive first of all, how you’re feeling, and then remember this debt of any kind, burden of any kind is created by giving more than you had to give.
0:24:17.6: And then the answer is, to start receiving… I
0:24:21.7: Love you very much. If you have any questions on this, please, please, please feel free to email me, Patty@pattylennon.com, I send you my love, have a beautiful week. Hey, thanks for listening. If you know someone who needs to hear this message, please share this episode with them, and if you’re feeling really generous, I’d love for you to leave us a review at your favorite podcast app, it helps us reach many more people, and it fills my heart with so much joy when I hear what you have to say about what I’ve shared. I’m cheering for your success, have an amazing day, and don’t forget. Always create space for magic.