Today’s show is a deep dive into receiving rule number 3. Patty has talked about the 5 rules of receiving before. Rule 3, which is clearing space to make space for magic, is the topic for today’s show.
Clear spaces energetically feel good. A clean desk, a tidy closet, an organized pantry can all help. Patty shares why clearing clutter (defined as anything in your space that doesn’t feel good to you) can help you open to the messages and gifts from the Divine.
Here’s why we sometimes end up with things that aren’t helpful for us:
- Clutter often is the result of over-giving. Physical things can pile up until we take time to make ourselves a priority.
- Sometimes we’re attached to things that were given to us by family or were meaningful at one time but don’t serve us now.
- There are times when we hold on to things out of obligation to others or the desire to do what others want us to do.
If you are carrying something for someone else and it’s not what you want, that does not benefit your energy.
Patty encourages you to go slowly. It’s okay to be mindful as you go and it’s helpful to make clearing bite-sized. Trying to do a massive clearing of the entire basement (for example) can set you up for exhaustion.
Many of us have a complicated system for papers and it makes it hard to keep the paper clutter under control. The key is making it simple. Easy wins are always better than a complex system that you can’t keep up with.
Lastly, take care of yourself. Clutter is often a result of caring for others and giving so much that you are neglecting yourself. Having a clear space is a tangible way to feel the energy of receptivity and abundance.
Coming up in the Magic Lounge we are going to do a clutter-clearing exercise the week of July 4. Join us!
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Every creation, including every piece of paper, every object, every piece of art was created in light, right? All creation is light. And it needs to have its highest and best journey, right? But when we hold on to things from guilt and obligation, and on these lower emotions, that energy gets stuck, it gets stuck in the object and it gets stuck in our field in the field that we’re working in and living in, and it affects us. And when we start to release these objects, all the sudden these miracles start to happen. Welcome to the space for magic podcast where people who are led by their hearts come to learn the secrets to receiving all the gifts the universe has for us. I’m your host Patty Lennon. I’m an ex type a corporate banker turned intuitive coach, using a blend of common sense brain science and just a dash of magic. I’m here to help you create abundance in every area of your life, and business. Welcome.
Hey there, welcome to this episode of the space for magic podcast. I’m your host, Patty Lennon and today, we are going to talk about what I call receiving rule number three. Now if you’re new here, my philosophy is based on five rules of receiving that how we make space for magic is by opening up our receptivity to all of the gifts the universe, the Divine Source, whatever word you use is sending us at all times is based on our receptivity. And how we keep that receptivity open is by following what I call the rules of receiving which are really guideposts. And so if you listen to past episodes, you can learn more about the first rule, which is about allowing in what the world is giving you right, both the good and the bad. And receiving Rule number two is about receiving yourself. And we’ve talked a lot about that. But I’ve talked less about rule number three, which is clear space to make space. Now in receiving school, we work on all of this, when we get up to receiving rule number three people are usually pretty relieved, because they’ve been doing all of this kind of ethereal energetic work. And our minds our human minds crave tangible crave things they can touch and feel and something you can do a checklist like get it done and and have it done, which makes if that’s your if the way you’re built, then this is going to be great for you, you’re going to love it. So clear space to make space basically is saying that the objects, the things taking up space in our life, whether it’s your clothes, or your physical space, or furniture, sometimes people but we’re not talking about them right now, that all of that has an effect on your energy. And if you’re surrounded by a lot of clutter, or things that don’t feel good, or that carry the weight of guilt or obligation, you’re naturally going to be more in resistance, which just means you’re kind of holding your energy in, and you’re bracing yourself against what’s around you. If you’ve ever been in a if you ever worked in an office where there was like a lot of paperwork around, maybe that’s your office, then you know that it’s a lot harder to really focus and produce really high quality work, then let’s save everything was kind of put away in a home and and filed and that you had a clean workspace you know, we’re always looking for new graphics. And my amazing graphic designer will always run things by me. We test them out on advertising. And always, if we have one graphic, that’s a clean desk with maybe one bouquet of flowers, and you know, a notepad, a clean white notepad, those ads no matter what it is, we’re advertising, they always do better. Because we’re always looking for that clear space, right? It makes us feel good, it energetically feels good. And we it can be easy to think that you’re doing all this inner spiritual work. And that should be enough. But in fact, do your physical space does matter because it affects how your brain works. It affects how you feel. And all of those things contribute to your ability to allow in all the good stuff that the Divine is sending you that you’ve desired that you’ve asked for. So in receiving school, when we get to this point, we touch on a lot of different pieces of the puzzle, but for now I’m going to focus on clutter and clearing clutter. And before I am by clutter, I just mean things that are in your space that don’t feel good to you. And there’s a few reasons why we have clutter or objects that don’t feel good to us. The first is we’re just very busy, right? I mean, some people call themselves Oh, I’m just so disorganized. Inevitably, when I found disorganized people, it’s typically people who have really over given themselves, they’ve committed to a lot of different people and projects. And they usually do it from the kindness of their heart. And so disorganized just typically means that you overextend yourself, right. So that’s one reason. Another reason is that you have things in your home that were given to you or handed down and come with a sense of obligation. And you may not even realize how much they’re affecting you. But if they’re not there with a sense of love and excitement, and joy and receptivity, they’re taking away from your receptivity and your ability to bring in all the abundance that is already being handed to you. You know, in light of the time that we’re in, specifically, and what I mean by that is when this podcast is going to run, it is going to be running just a few days before, or maybe actually on now that I think about, I think it’s going to be running on the day of the anniversary of my mother’s death. And so she passed away exactly 10 years ago. And this time of year always brings out your memories of that that time because my mom did pass from cancer. So it was a journey, her crossing over was a journey. And it happened over weeks and weeks and weeks. And so we had the time to say goodbye to her. And there was a lot of events that happened during that time that really shaped the work I do here with with all of you today. And so I am at that point, if you’re grieving, and you’re wondering, does it ever get better? Like does it ever get easier. And the the thing I’ve always shared is, you never are going to feel the old normal, right? If you’re missing someone, that hole is always going to be in your heart, however, you become a different person because of it. And if you allow it to work, its magic, eventually you will find gifts in it. But until that happens, you know, just honor that you’re on a journey of grief. But I can tell you staying here sitting here 10 years, since I said goodbye to her. There are moments where it just feels as raw and real as it did that day. But for the most part, it’s the good stuff that I remember now. And even that time, it’s the lessons and the wisdom I gained and who I became in that process. And that applies to actually to what we’re talking about today. So we are Irish Catholic. And why that’s important is you know, lots of different cultures approach death in very special ways. And I’m not as familiar with them. But the Irish Catholics are a pragmatic bunch, I would say, death typically is considered a celebration, even if it doesn’t always feel like that right? In the moment. It is not something to be, you know, when someone crosses over, you want to remember their goodness, right and their light. And that’s where the focus is, and certainly leading up to it. It’s not we I grew up in a household where death was just a fact of life, we went to wakes, we saw lots of dead people in their caskets. That’s probably why I’m so comfortable with death. And I say that only because based on the culture you were raised in this may feel kind of gruesome what I’m about to share with you. But it was just a way of life. So leading up to my mother’s death. Her intention before she had started going downhill was really to have her funeral arrangements done so that no one had to worry about it. But that didn’t happen. And she ended up being bedridden and not in a position to plan her own funeral, but really wanting to know that it was done. And so there I am, you know, already just so heartbroken that we’re on this journey and taking my father to the funeral parlor to plan the funeral. And we’re going through, you know, all the questions that needs to be answered. And there was one part that I was a little concerned about, which was that because we were Catholic, the Catholic Church at one point did not allow for cremation. And yet my mother wanted to be cremated. But at the point that we were in 10 years ago, it was allowed by the Catholic Church. I never quite knew where my dad was in catching up with, you know, where we were with all what was acceptable, what wasn’t. And I was a little concerned that when we got to the part about the casket that he would fight the cremation. But, you know, we got to that part of the questioning and he said my wife wants to be cremated. And so they said, Okay, this didn’t we just need to pick the urn and They take out a large book, and we’re looking at this and he picks an urn, and it’s lovely urn. And then. So we get to the end of all the questions. And this takes like an hour and a half. It’s the most painful, excruciating level of detail. And so we get to the end, and then my father, so he the, the funeral director said, Do you have any questions? And my dad said, yeah, what are we going to bury? You know, what are we going to use for the burial? And he said, Oh, the urn the urn, you know, is burial ready, I
guess I don’t really remember what the term was. And my dad said no, because that’s, that’s going to be on our mantle. And I was shocked. Because I did not think that he would thought he was keeping the ashes. Because the one thing the Catholic Church was fine with cremation, but the ashes still need to be buried in a consecrated cemetery. So it’s, you know, a cemetery, it’s blessed, and whatever way the Catholic Church requires it. And so now, I’m thinking, dang, I did not see this coming, right. And I said, Well, Dad, you know, we were going to bury the ashes. And he said, Oh, no, no, we’re keeping the ashes. And I, I did not have the bandwidth to have that conversation with him then. So I say, alright, well, we just, you know, it’s either it gets buried, or it’s on your mantle. But there’s only one urn, so we finished that meeting, and we were coming home to his house, and where my sister and my cousin, were with my mom. And they come out of the house, I guess, to meet us and see how things went. And I rush ahead to them. And I say, Dad’s keeping the urn, and they’re like, what? And I’m like, Dad thinks he’s keeping the urn on. I don’t know, we didn’t he didn’t even have a mantel. So I’m like, I don’t know his dresser or maybe it’s like, oh, no, he’s not. I’m like, Well, you can have that conversation. But I do not have the ability to have that conversation with him right
now, with there’s just too much going on. So my sister proceeds to have the conversation with my father privately. And I went in to talk to my mother, and I’m going to tell you about that conversation in a second. But it’s important for you to know how that conversation my sister had ended. Essentially, she helped him understand that that was not what was expected, appropriate what my mother wanted. He didn’t necessarily want to keep the ashes, it was that he really had no familiarity with cremation, other than what he had seen in the movies. And he had absorbed that as what was expected, and that you know, someone that really honors the dead has these ashes in an urn. And the urns are always visible. And you know, this is just kind of like what we see in Hollywood, right. So he just thought that was the right thing to do. He didn’t necessarily want those ashes, I don’t even think he would want her to get cremated to begin with. But he was trying to honor who she was, and what she wanted. He was trying to do, the few things he could do that was within his control. And I’m guessing he was quite relieved to find out that we were actually going to be burying the ashes. But I never had a further conversation with him about it. I did, however, have a conversation with my mother. So where my sister took my father in one room, I went to see my mother. And at that point, I just wasn’t spending a lot of time away from her periods. I missed her. And I climbed into bed with her. And I was telling her that the funeral arrangements were done. And I said, but I have to tell you something. Now, at this point, I don’t know that my sister has convinced my father to change his mind. So I said, you know, Dad wants to keep the ashes. And she said, Well, now isn’t he a funny duck? She’d never used that term on him before. Usually, his inability to get rid of things drove her crazy. But when you’re what I found, going through this journey with my mother is that when you’re at the end of your life, your need to control things, and attached to other people’s choices really goes away. It really goes away. Now, I knew that that was not her expectation, but she was just like, Well, hey, I’ll be gone. So do with it what you may, but she had zero attachment to him keeping the ashes. Now, if my sister had not been the person that she is, or if I hadn’t sum it up the courage to have that conversation, quite possibly, you know, he passed away a couple of years ago, I would have been having to deal with the ashes at that point. And the thing is, he would have lived with them out of obligation, and maybe it wouldn’t have affected him in any negative way. I gotta believe it would. I don’t think it would have been easy for him to look at those all the time. And he would have gotten there simply because he didn’t honor what he wanted. And he was trying to honor what he thought someone else wanted. When in fact that person, didn’t even want that, right, it was just a communication issue. And I see this all the time in the receiving school, the way we do the exercise. And one of the exercises is I have people close their eyes and just start to scan the home that they live in, or the office they’re working in, depending on what they want to focus on. And just feel where the energy calls them. And then focus on that room. And now, scan that room and feel where the energy calls you. And then open your eyes, go to that place, and see what’s there, and see what’s disrupting you because intuitively you know where those disruptions are. And when people get down to it, they’ll find that there’s just this one thing, or these few things, and they have them. And a lot of times they come from like a marriage, meaning they come from another family that they’ve married into. And they feel bad or disrespectful, or they just don’t think they’re allowed to get rid of an object. But the thing is, every creation, including every piece of paper, every object, every piece of art, was created in light, right? All creation is light. And it needs to have its highest and best journey, right. But when we hold on to things from guilt and obligation, and on these lower emotions, that energy gets stuck, it gets stuck in the object, and it gets stuck in our field in the field that we’re working in and living in, and it affects us. And when we start to release these objects, all the sudden these miracles start to happen. And I have so many stories of those miracles, but I can tell you, from my own personal experience, just the relief that I felt, and then I imagined my father felt and probably as unattached as my mother was how she felt and the rest of our family felt that these ashes were going where they were meant to go and not being held in some suspension out of obligation benefited everyone. And of course, that was easier for us to do as a family, because really, the thing that that everyone wanted was the same in the end and communication was really all that that needed to happen to make that possible. But for you, there may be things, you know, in your space, that you don’t have that that your mother in law really does expect you to hold on to, or that a friend gave you. And if it’s not there, you know, their feelings will be hurt. And what do you do with that, right. And this is why clearing space to make space really gets at the heart of the work we do because as long as you’re carrying something for someone else, whether it’s you’re carrying it on a bookshelf, or literally inside of you, and it’s not what you desire, and it’s not optimal for you, that doesn’t work, the world does not benefit, the your energy does not benefit. And when you start to release things out into the world, yeah, there may be some tough conversations that have to happen. But those are likely conversations that probably need to happen boundaries that need to be set anyway. And on top of it, then that material object, whatever it is, gets to go where it needs to go, right where its highest path is.
And again, it’s not always easy, especially if you know if someone that object is attached to has passed on, right, and you you think you’re keeping it out of honoring them. But what I can tell you having had those conversations, when I’ve done readings for people on we’ve have interacted, you know, on behalf of a client with someone on the other side of the veil is once they get to the other side of the veil, no one has ever said yes, hold on to my crap. They don’t feel that way. On the other side. They’re clear of it. Right? They understand how all this works now, and they want only the highest and the best good for you. So if you need to hear that message right now, I hope that it landed exactly where it needed to land. And it gives you the courage to do this. The other thing I will tell you about this is go slow. You know, when we talk about when I talk about the ashes with my father, I don’t know how that conversation would have been if my mother had already crossed, and we were juggling lots of details right at that moment. That was the only detail we had to focus on. And so we could go slow with it, you know, and we could deal with it. And that’s what I would encourage you to do is don’t try and do a mass overhaul unless that feels good to you. And you’re ready for that. I hear so often. People say oh, I’ve been trying to clear my office for two years. I’ve been trying to clean out the basement for two years, three years, 10 years since I moved in. And the thing is that that puts yourself and your mind at a
I had a failure point. Because when you’re like, I’m going to clear the whole office, the whole basement, the whole house, whatever it is, it makes the job so big that getting to a finish line is very hard. It’s far more helpful and valuable to make the clearing the clutter clearing, bite size, make it, you know, it would be better for you to have 100 Bite Size clearings than trying to one massive clearing because then you have 100 successes that you get to experience as opposed to just this long, long journey of Not, not feeling like you’ve succeeded not feeling like you’ve succeeded, when you finally get it done. You’re just probably so exhausted from it, that there isn’t even a celebration, right. So let’s do these things, do them in bite sized pieces. And I will tell you, if you feel like you need some help with that we are going to be, as I said, we’re focused on that particular that rule of receiving in the membership right now the magic lounge, and we’re going to be doing a clutter clearing challenge where I’m going to help help you help anyone in the membership really drop, what needs to get done into a smaller bite sized action steps so that you can feel some of the success and you can start to build this muscle around being able to let go of stuff and things. And so that’s going to happen the week of July 4. So if you are not already a member of the magic lounge, I invite you to join us you can go to pattylennon.com/magiclounge. And in fact, in July, we were going to start a membership, an annual membership sale. But because this podcast is coming out earlier, we’re going to start it now. So the membership is $37 a month. But if you join now, or in the month of July, you can get the annual membership for 25% offs, you can get it for 333. It’s my favorite number, my angel number. And a couple of extra goodies. If you’re joining in the annual membership, I created a paper clearing system because I did see so many people in the receiving school struggling with clearing paper. And we’ll speak about that in a second. So that’s one place I see people really get kind of caught up in their clutter, and another is in email. So the email. So just as much as we clear the space in our physical spaces, the space in our cloud, like where we spend time also needs to be clear or else it can really suck up our energy. So I have a system to get your email down to a manageable process in 30 minutes a day. So I have those two programs. Anyone who signs up in an annual membership, during now until the end of July, will get those two bonuses as well as the 25% off the annual membership. So again, that those bonuses are if you joined for the year. And then you get all the other juicy bonuses from the magic lounge, we do readings every week, I do readings every week, there’s discounts on programs, and oh, just so many different resources, I won’t get into all of them, you can go check out the sales page, if you’re interested. The thing that is most time sensitive though, is we’ll be doing the clutter clearing challenge the week of July 4, I’d love to have you in the group, if that’s of interest to you. So now shifting gears, paper clearing to me is another one that can get really, you know, you may actually be really good at not holding on to things out of obligation. But your paper is out of control. And I won’t go into the entire system. But I will tell you the one key is that usually gets in the way of paper clutter is to make your paper management system to complicate it. And I find when people have these really complicated paper management systems or expect to, that’s a behavior that tends to go into the rest of your life. And what I mean by that is, you know, simplifying the way you file things, even if everything just goes into a one file drawer. And it’s all there. That’s way better than having it out all over the place. But a lot of times, we put expectations on what it looks like to be a good, you know, to have a good system, you know, whether it’s about money or your work or some other piece of, you know, capitalist society, that there’s, you know what the right people do what the professionals do, and then there’s you and so then there’s this sense of you’re not enough. And the key to having a good a good paper clearing system ends up getting at the heart of you are enough, you really are enough and I just want to offer you that if right now your paper clutter feels like it’s out of control. Before you try and address that situation. Take some time, especially if you identify as disorganized take some time to take stock of how you spend your time especially how much time you give to taking care of others and just give your self some appreciation because I would put my money on it, that if you have, your paper is out of control, or you identify as disorganized, you’re probably doing way more than you have time to do and constantly feeling like you’re not enough. And I’m here to tell you, you are more than enough. And it’s okay to slow down and take care of yourself, even if some people are going to have to find other Earth Angels to take care of them.
So I’ll leave you with that with the paper clearing. And finally, since I touched on email, although I want to focus mostly on the physical clutter, you know, an overwhelming inbox again, it’s a symptom of something deeper. And almost always, it’s this desire to please everyone to always be worrying about other what other people need from you, because your your email inbox is other people’s agenda for your time. And if it’s that overwhelming, that means you feel the burden of all the things people need from you. And it’s okay to let that go. Now, that’s just scratching the surface. And certainly we’ll be talking more about that in the magic lounge. If you want to join us, I would love to have you. We do have coaching calls every month also. So if you need some help some coaching from me on this, I’m happy to help you. If you want to know what your spirit guides have to say about this. I’m happy to share that with you too on our calls. Go ahead to pattylennon.com/magiclounge. And again, if you join now, you’ll also have access to that discount. So I hope I gave you some quick start options for how to start to clear your space. What I do want to leave you with is having a clear space really is so tangible in terms of feeling the receptivity energy really feeling that life is abundant, really feeling ease, feeling freedom, when you have a clear space when your clutter is gone. You’ll really experience that and the key is to do it in bite sized pieces. So again, I hope that helped. I send you my love. And remember, make space for magic, especially right now by clearing space. All right. Have a wonderful week, everyone. Hey, thanks for listening. If you know someone who needs to hear this message, please share this episode with them. And if you’re feeling really generous, I’d love for you to leave us a review at your favorite podcast app. It helps us reach many more people and it fills my heart with so much joy. When I hear what you have to say about what I’ve shared. I’m cheering for your success. Have an amazing day. And don’t forget, always create space for magic.
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