In May 2017 I began finding daisies sprinkled throughout our property, daisies we did not plant. They were my mom’s favorite flower. I think she left them for me to remind me of the journey we took together, especially the lessons learned through her cancer and death. I’m sharing them now in the posts labeled “Daisy Chronicles.”
I just got off the phone with an amazing woman, I’ll call Sally. Sally is smart, full of life and a dedicated friend, mother and daughter among other attributes. She has a tough decision to make and she wanted me to help her connect with what advice her mother (who passed away some years ago) would give her.
As smart and confident as she is, she still wants to know what mom would say.
I get it. I want that too, so often. I can talk to my mother any time I want but its not the same when the answers don’t come from human lips that produce real live sound.
Being able to connect to people who have crossed over has been one of the benefits of having my own mom cross over. During those last weeks of her life, her soul would move in and out of her body as it readied for transition.
In order to stay connected to her I opened my own intuition wider and wider to feel her presence. That openness is what has allowed me to connect more deeply with the energy that exists beyond our 5 senses. It is what lets me see and hear other people’s guides, angels and loved ones.
As I connected to this woman’s mother she came through clearly with a single message:
I would never tell you what to do. I would hold you, just like I’m holding you right now and support you in the decision you make. I would remind you that you are smart and that you deserve happiness.
Sally laughed while she cried. “That’s exactly what she would have told me if she was here.”
Of course it is. Whether we understand it or not, we always feel the support of the people who have crossed over. We know what they would say. But we want the physicality of their presence. We want to hear the words. We want to feel the hug. We want to see.
You may want that for someone you love who has crossed over. If you do, just know you are not alone. I understand that ache. It is real. What is also real is that your loved one is right there with you, loving you so hard you can feel it if you will open yourself to it. Find space, get quiet and let it in.
And if you aren’t missing a loved one right now, that is a very good thing. Living without that ache is grace. Use that grace. Go find someone you love who is still here in the physical and hug them. Look at them. See them. Listen to them. Drink it in – all the physicality of their being-ness in your life. That is such a gift and you deserve to enjoy it.